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"Fat is not a feeling . . ."

Apr 24, 2011 10:30

A friend and I were talking about this phrase the other day. She hears it in her treatment setting regularly. I've known treatment providers who LOVE the phrase in the past, but I've never heard anyone at my current center use it. At all. I can't help but wonder if they intentionally avoid it, and I could see that being the case, based on ( Read more... )

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healthyfigure April 24 2011, 19:46:35 UTC

We actually had the opposite - "Fat IS a feeling" as in you may feel like you look fat, but in reality you are not...

Obviously we had to look into what "fat" actually meant to us - it's so different within different groups and a pretty undescriptive term meaning lazy, sad, unloved, suffocated, overwhelemed ... anything really.

spiderpiggle April 24 2011, 19:59:10 UTC

it's really interesting that you brought this up i read about it in a book about dieting and youth culture i cant remember its name now. research suggests that anorexics all have in common not low self esteem or other factors, but a lack of ability to distinguish between different feelings, so it would make sense that they misinterpret a negative feeling as 'fat'

trnstlntcsm April 25 2011, 00:11:36 UTC

If you find the name of the book, or article w/e it was, I'd love to read it.
It seems the only thing that many different therapists seem to agree with about me is that I have a huge problem with pinpointing what emotion/feeling I'm feeling, so this really interests me.

blinded_bat April 25 2011, 13:02:42 UTC

Alexithymia?

bisolvon April 24 2011, 22:28:22 UTC

I couldn't say "I feel fat" when I was in my ED center.
But then I couldn't say "bad/good/everything/nothing/always/never" because they wanted us to express our inner selves correctly?

Like we couldn't say "everything is horrible" "I feel bad"... you had to say "X and X are horrible right now" and "I feel sad/angry/etc."

teenage_hustler April 25 2011, 01:58:11 UTC

Hmmm, this and the comments have been interesting to read, to be sure ( ... )

hope_is_swift April 25 2011, 09:03:37 UTC

I've been to many treatment centres, some of which just downright ignore the word 'fat', & others who actually try to pull at all its nuances & figure out what's BEHIND the word ( ... )