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[edithmatilda]

Have had possibly quite useful therapy session of discussing ways to deal with Baba's Babanesses. There were many worrying thoughts (if I am a Mummy substitute and when Mummy got Outside Interests and Relative Wellness she LEFT, is my increased OKness a threat?) but also I did some helpful consolidating of yesterday's thoughts and am feeling mildly

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[khalinche]

How do you feel about putting a bolt or a lock on your door so that you can stop hi just coming in whenever he wants to?

[edithmatilda]

A bit scared that he'll yell, mainly, but as the door already has a lock (I lock it on the outside to minimise cat risk) I shall try it as the next step if polite request fails.

[nickys]

Family stuff can be horribly complicated.
Wishing you luck.

[edithmatilda]

Much thank :) *dons armour*

[kbk]

I was just telling the parentals about cats eating people and they were shocked! shocked I say! and claimed never to have heard the concept before.

(congrats re: therapy and Baba thoughts)

[edithmatilda]

Maybe they technically don't eat people but I am not convinced because I have met Kitten.

I feel both disturbed and relieved by the thought that my wellness is a Threat. It is weird but also makes it so much less My Problem that it is quite overwhelming. Hope am wrong but suspect am not...

[diarytypething]

Empowerment is great. Yay empowerment!

Have you tried giving Clancy a mirror yet? It may only be a substitute for another pig in the way that having the radio on is a substitute for other humans, but it may help him to be less solemn.

[edithmatilda]

He is ignoring Protoclancy, so a mirror is the obvious next step. I can't think of a suitable one but a basic plastic-framed thing should be pretty findable. I cab check charity shops and then pound shops with reasonable confidence even.

He has seen himself in the mirror when I've been holding him and has done slight Confused Face but that is obviously not as fun as OMG another Clancy at ground level!

[diarytypething]

Protoclancy?

[edithmatilda]

Protoclancy is a cuddly toy I made from a kit years ago. He was named Protoclancy back when I had the name Clancy (from a dream, feel free to mock me) but not the real person Clancy, so the cuddly toy went into the cage with Monty until I could find a proper real actual peeg to go there instead.

(Clancy enough like the pig in the dream to have been OMG IT IS CLANCY when I saw him, but not enough to be actually a bit scary. So that is good.)

[alryssa]

I fully agree re: asserting your rights. You need to establish boundaries, because he sure as hell isn't - hell, if someone has to be the adult in this household, you might as well take on that role, right? And that fits pretty well with the definition of being one.

[edithmatilda]

It is worryingly useful having an end date for therapy, in that I am no longer just meandering through the hour.

Being The Adult is less stressful, which seems unlikely but makes sense when the alternative is being stuck in a Helpless Miserable Child mindset.