Comments | eggwards: Two Seats, Together

eggwards

Two Seats, Together

Jan 12, 2010 00:09

Something from the Prop 8 trial today triggered a recent memory. One of the Plaintiffs stated the difficulties of having to have people understand what your partner means to you, especially in some casual encounters, like saving a seat for them on a plane, or at a theater ( Read more... )

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not an issue genelandry January 12 2010, 07:21:59 UTC

Kelly and I don't really have those moments of awkwardness anymore, mostly because 1) we're old and 2) we've been together so long. Our relationship has been around long enough that, for us, its not a topic that's up for debate nor is it something that is negotiable on anyone else's terms. We refer to each other as 'husbands,' and our straight friends do as well.

Being old really is the key though. I really don't give two rips what anyone thinks about me or my lurid relationship with my smoking hot hubby. If I've got a boarding pass with adjoining seats, then that bitch needs to move her ass or check in earlier. Period. (Also, I would never consider asking someone else to abandon their seat in our favor. That's just rude.)

Congrats on the wedding btw. That's great for you! WOOT!

Re: not an issue eggwards January 13 2010, 05:00:30 UTC

Maybe it's that things are still a little new to me. Still, we've only been married a little over a year, but we've been together for 6 years now. Who knows.

I think a big part of it is just not caring what others think, and unfortunately that's never been an easy thing for me.

hot4latin January 12 2010, 12:33:59 UTC

No explanation necessary. Whether you want to sit next to your husband or you want to sit in the window seat. Your seat is your seat. It's people like her that take advantage of nice guys like you - gay or not. She should have been called on it. Let the Flight Attendant handle the ugly part.

hugh_mannity January 12 2010, 16:09:19 UTC

This.

It doesn't matter who your traveling companion is, those were your seats and you should have been able to sit in them.

eggwards January 13 2010, 05:02:39 UTC

Yeah, in the end it wan't that big of an issue, but still, we would have been in the right if we wanted to make an issue of it. Just no sense having an even grumpier guy sitting next to the two of us, I guess.

We ARE Married, This is my Husband cruisebear January 12 2010, 18:17:15 UTC

I would have told her "We are Married too and this is my Husband. Many time people do it out of an old routine like her and her husband.

Re: We ARE Married, This is my Husband eggwards January 13 2010, 05:04:26 UTC

Yeah, i wan't sure in that moment if I wanted to push the issue or not, especially as we were cutting boarding pretty close. I just wonder why they didn't get seats together as well?

emsbear January 12 2010, 22:55:01 UTC

I guess I don't see too much of that type of interaction since same sex marriage is legal and accepted here in the Great White North.

My husband and I will be traveling to Orlando for a MUCH delayed vacation to Disney. I used to just say that he was my "friend" or "companion" but after 17 years together I felt he deserved more than that so now I openly call him my "partner" or "spouse". I don't usually call him my "husband" outside of Canada because I know that some people still have an issue with that term. Sometimes baby steps are needed to get people to accept it.

I know that this time when we go, we will both be wearing the Happy Anniversary buttons and showing everyone that we are a couple.

eggwards January 13 2010, 05:07:21 UTC

Yeah, when it's still a very odd thing to have married men here, there is a difference in perception, not only from others, but I think in my perception of our relationship as well. There's always going to be some outsider status, almost outlaw kind of thing until there is true marriage equality here.

I have called Chris husband at different times, and that's the way I feel about him, but it still seems like we aren't supposed to use that.

i hope the trip to disney is a lot of fun!

dorisduke January 13 2010, 06:44:26 UTC

same happened to us leaving france. I said no we had these seats and my husband and I want to sit where we paid to sit. I then called the flight attendant and let him take it from there and we sat where we planned. I care not if they were displeased. But more so to a point, I never have a hard time expressing our relationship. I carry our marriage certificate if challenged on the matter.