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ego_id_non_feci

Mental Shiny

Jan 27, 2008 20:22

Hey! Mental stuff! Not funny! You don't have to read!

So, I've been figuring more stuff out. It's been good. Okay, that's sort of a lie. It's been weird. But I think it's been good for me. If that makes any sort of sense. Anyway, I'm sort of mostly an obsessive perfectionist. Not as in, "This room must be clean! Everything has its place ( Read more... )

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eithni January 28 2008, 03:55:12 UTC

At one point, I got the phrase "Good enough never is" stuck in my head and it made me an obsessive perfectionist for a long while. In recent years, however, I have come to the conclusion that using "good enough" as an excuse for not putting in sufficient effort toward a project/relationship/activity/etc. _WAS_ a problem... However, setting a more moderate goal for a project that only required a moderate-quality outcome was entirely reasonable. This allows more time to be devoted to enjoyable just-for-fun things and to the projects that really need/deserve the perfectionist's touch. Assigning reasonable priorities is important, both for your mental health and for the quality of your work in general. Sometimes it feels great to give a project your all (every last manic twitch you can muster), but most of the time it is just fine just to be you. :)

ego_id_non_feci January 28 2008, 04:15:39 UTC

Good. I'm glad you agree with me on this one. :)

Maybe once I get enough practice in with not freaking out about everything, I can take another look and start saying, "Okay, you can get twitchy about this specific project/relationship/activity right now." First I have to develop some control over this off switch of mine. Now that I know I have an off switch. It's shiny!

Thanks for the support! :)

well done trueblade32 January 28 2008, 04:18:55 UTC

well done Chelsey
Many of us still haven't been able to figure ourselves out.

Its great to see you take a good look at yourself and decide what is best for you.
And don't worry, no matter what course your life takes your friends will be there... there aren't "good enough" friends or "perfect" friends
there are just friends who will be there for you...;-)

always

Mark

teffan January 28 2008, 04:56:03 UTC

Silly girl, we probably wouldn't enjoy your company NEARLY as much if you were perfect or the perfect friend. And since you don't have permission to obsess about being the perfect you, I think that's just what you have to do :P I also think it's what you are best at, and have been doing perfectly all along :)

jinglymushroom January 28 2008, 06:01:37 UTC

I know I've said this a lot, but, really, honestly, yay! Go you! you totally rock! I understand what you mean by being an all-over perfectionist, in my own way of course, but understand nonetheless. I wish I had the capacity to do that, what you just did, but I can't. But that's not the point. I think it's absolutely wonderful that you've decided to do this. It'll help keep mental health, and allow to allot proper time for what's important and just let things that aren't so much go, so you don't have to stress about them. You're absolutely awesome smart. I am happy for you. I'll still like you now that you're not obsessing over being the "perfect friend". :D And I'll growl at anybody who decides they don't, and I agree - they can go soak in a bucket. What a wonderful expression! Huzzah for you.
And if you begin to obsess over it too much, or if you have too many lack of sleep or other health-damaging times, please be aware that I (and probably others, as well) will have to stop you.

littlepasht January 28 2008, 12:35:00 UTC

Ok, you need to stop living in my head. Any minute now. It's getting a little weird in here.
Although I really like that whole "off switch" idea. Maybe I should give that a try. =)

On a completely different note - what are the chances of you being at GW?

ego_id_non_feci January 30 2008, 21:10:05 UTC

Zero and none. Although I did unethically sound them out on the possibility of my needing to take a week off to go to my little sister's wedding in Italy at exactly the same time as Gulf War (wink, wink). They said it would be no problem at all.

...and then I felt guilty about even sounding them out with a rotten awful lie, so, well. :) Can't be done- I assumed I had no morals about this kind of thing, and then, WOOPS! They rear their ugly little heads and start poking me with righteous pitchforks of doom.