I frequent facebook to communicate with my family and a few of my friends because that is the most expedient place to communicate with them.
But when my 60 year-old sister is "liking" groups such as "i hate it when people only want me around because they want something from me" and I go to that group and see that every other person in it is about 15 years-old, is just...well...for lack of a beter term... ooogie!
On the other hand, I have found people who know about Dorothy Parker and Kitty Carlisle and a lot of folks I particularly enjoy. I've found a group called "Lost Oregon" where they post pictures of buildings, signs and other things from my youth that have been torn down and we all share stories. That is pretty cool. SO FB has its place.
Oh, and I friended Peter Frampton, who is really fun to follow. He lost all his guitars in the Nashville flood, and he's talking about replacing them. He's on the trail of an old Les Paul Sunburst. Very cool story.
On the other hand, I have found people who know about Dorothy Parker and Kitty Carlisle and a lot of folks I particularly enjoy. I've found a group called "Lost Oregon" where they post pictures of buildings, signs and other things from my youth that have been torn down and we all share stories. That is pretty cool. SO FB has its place.
Well, that's cool. I'm glad it's working for you! :)
FB. I love it and hate it.
I find it a really strange social phenomena. :P Perhaps it is that I can't deal with the intersection of all of my various personas; my brain tends to explode with all of the different contexts in which I know people all coming together. :P
BTW, do you know if it's possible to filter your "News Feed"? I've pretty much friended everyone back -- because I figured why not -- but I might like Facebook better if I could control whose updates I read.
Bah, then again it might not be worth it. IDK ... I'm feeling old. ;)
You can't exactly filter your News feed. But you can make Lists. On the left hand side, under News, it should say Friends. If you click on that, it will come up with a Friend suggestion Page (that's pretty worthless, IMHO, since you can get to everything on it from elsewhere except the one thing we're going to use). At the top right corner, there's a "create a list" button. Click it and you can add the people you want to a separate list. Name the list whatever you want and it will show up under the Friends link whenever you are on the Friends page.
When you want to use it, you click on the Friends link as before, then click on the name of your list.
I do use mine a lot.
The other thing to remember is that if you just want to look at one friend, click on their picture or name. Or you can search for them by name at any time using the search bar at the top of the page. I do that if I just want to stalk get an update on one particular person
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Sorry, I can't explain the appeal, because I don't see any, myself. In fact, I'll repeat a comment I made to another friend just last week: To me, FB is TMI in a weirdly shallow venue that totally hits my creepitude button.
Also? I have huge issues with a general lack of privacy on the 'net, and FB has proven themselves to be untrustworthy and consistently indifferent to their users' privacy concerns, and only interested in raking in advertising revenue. I was SO relieved to see Chris Kelly (FB's chief privacy officer) defeated in his bid to be CA Attorney General.
I'm never going to join FB. Ever. *makes warding sign*
To me, FB is TMI in a weirdly shallow venue that totally hits my creepitude button.
Totally weirdly shallow. Like somehow it's all about me even in reading about other people, which might be what some people get off on. There's also the false sense of popularity from having a large number of "friends." Or exchanging bon mots with people one hasn't talked to in 25 years. Eeeee.
Yeah, there's some creepitude overlap for me between FB and LJ (collecting thousands of "friends" like life is a popularity contest, turning up the TMI to 11), but I'd much rather compartmentalize, so FB wigs me out in that way, too.
I appreciate reconnecting with SOME old friends, but not everyone I ever went to school with. And putting all that info online totally gives me the wiggins.
Apparently I'm way more dependent on compartmentalization than I realized! I almost can't function without being able to compartmentalize people on Facebook. I suppose that's one reason I use filters on lj.
I appreciate reconnecting with SOME old friends, but not everyone I ever went to school with.
I joined FB recently, after missing out on multiple social events that were only shared on FB because 'everyone's on FB, aren't they?' I've never posted anything there, or commented on anyone else's post. I have, however, been invited to a couple of social events.
For superficial social chatter, I much prefer Twitter. For actual networking, I prefer a system that allows filtering of posts for privacy.
I joined FB recently, after missing out on multiple social events that were only shared on FB because 'everyone's on FB, aren't they?'
Bah.
For superficial social chatter, I much prefer Twitter. For actual networking, I prefer a system that allows filtering of posts for privacy.
I haven't really gotten into Twitter either. I totally agree with regard to filtering; I want to filter both who I read as well as who has access to my posts. (I filter my reading lists primarily to put people and their comments into a context, which is another thing I find totally lacking on Facebook. Too many context shifts in a short period of time and my brain explodes! :P)
ROFL. :D It is nice to know that I am not alone in my hatred of all things Facebook.
Ironically, yesterday, just as I was becoming maximally annoyed with Facebook, our corporate IT department unveiled a new version of it on our intranet (... called "Yammer" of all things, which is certainly apt.) So now people are officially sanctioned for wasting time online at work and "yammering" away?!?!
I got on FB because my older kids are all on it and that way I can keep track of them easier than bugging them to call their mom and check in. Also, a lot of out of state friends posts pictures to their accounts and I can see how their families are growing or share pics of my own.
You are able to screen who receives your posts. Also, I am not one to "friend" just anyone - only people I truly want to hear from. If someone starts driving you nuts with their posts (for me it is when they constantly brag on their exercising routines), you can "hide" them from view.
It has its uses. I log on before work and when I get home to check things. But I can also understand people not wanting anything to do with it. That's how I feel about Twitter! :-)
I got on FB because my older kids are all on it and that way I can keep track of them easier than bugging them to call their mom and check in.
Now that is an *excellent* reason to be on Facebook. The day is not far off when I imagine I will be doing the same thing (my oldest son is 9 right now.) I look forward to posting inane parental comments on his wall. ;) (Not really, I'll probably just lurk in the hopes he'll forget I'm observing his online interactions ... )
If someone starts driving you nuts with their posts (for me it is when they constantly brag on their exercising routines), you can "hide" them from view.I am absolutely going to have to figure out how to do this. I initially just friended everyone back because I figured why not, given that I'm never on Facebook, but I find myself irritated at even just encountering a few people on the rare occasions when I do log in
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But when my 60 year-old sister is "liking" groups such as "i hate it when people only want me around because they want something from me" and I go to that group and see that every other person in it is about 15 years-old, is just...well...for lack of a beter term... ooogie!
On the other hand, I have found people who know about Dorothy Parker and Kitty Carlisle and a lot of folks I particularly enjoy. I've found a group called "Lost Oregon" where they post pictures of buildings, signs and other things from my youth that have been torn down and we all share stories. That is pretty cool. SO FB has its place.
Oh, and I friended Peter Frampton, who is really fun to follow. He lost all his guitars in the Nashville flood, and he's talking about replacing them. He's on the trail of an old Les Paul Sunburst. Very cool story.
FB. I love it and hate it.
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Well, that's cool. I'm glad it's working for you! :)
FB. I love it and hate it.
I find it a really strange social phenomena. :P Perhaps it is that I can't deal with the intersection of all of my various personas; my brain tends to explode with all of the different contexts in which I know people all coming together. :P
BTW, do you know if it's possible to filter your "News Feed"? I've pretty much friended everyone back -- because I figured why not -- but I might like Facebook better if I could control whose updates I read.
Bah, then again it might not be worth it. IDK ... I'm feeling old. ;)
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When you want to use it, you click on the Friends link as before, then click on the name of your list.
I do use mine a lot.
The other thing to remember is that if you just want to look at one friend, click on their picture or name. Or you can search for them by name at any time using the search bar at the top of the page. I do that if I just want to stalk get an update on one particular person ( ... )
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Hmm. Thank you; I will have to try this.
My 82 year-old mother and her friends are having a ball on FB.
That's awesome! :)
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Also? I have huge issues with a general lack of privacy on the 'net, and FB has proven themselves to be untrustworthy and consistently indifferent to their users' privacy concerns, and only interested in raking in advertising revenue. I was SO relieved to see Chris Kelly (FB's chief privacy officer) defeated in his bid to be CA Attorney General.
I'm never going to join FB. Ever. *makes warding sign*
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Totally weirdly shallow. Like somehow it's all about me even in reading about other people, which might be what some people get off on. There's also the false sense of popularity from having a large number of "friends." Or exchanging bon mots with people one hasn't talked to in 25 years. Eeeee.
Creepitude is a good word! ;)
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I appreciate reconnecting with SOME old friends, but not everyone I ever went to school with. And putting all that info online totally gives me the wiggins.
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I appreciate reconnecting with SOME old friends, but not everyone I ever went to school with.
Exactly. So not interested.
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For superficial social chatter, I much prefer Twitter. For actual networking, I prefer a system that allows filtering of posts for privacy.
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Bah.
For superficial social chatter, I much prefer Twitter. For actual networking, I prefer a system that allows filtering of posts for privacy.
I haven't really gotten into Twitter either. I totally agree with regard to filtering; I want to filter both who I read as well as who has access to my posts. (I filter my reading lists primarily to put people and their comments into a context, which is another thing I find totally lacking on Facebook. Too many context shifts in a short period of time and my brain explodes! :P)
... & hi! :D
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Ironically, yesterday, just as I was becoming maximally annoyed with Facebook, our corporate IT department unveiled a new version of it on our intranet (... called "Yammer" of all things, which is certainly apt.) So now people are officially sanctioned for wasting time online at work and "yammering" away?!?!
*shakes head*
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You are able to screen who receives your posts. Also, I am not one to "friend" just anyone - only people I truly want to hear from. If someone starts driving you nuts with their posts (for me it is when they constantly brag on their exercising routines), you can "hide" them from view.
It has its uses. I log on before work and when I get home to check things. But I can also understand people not wanting anything to do with it. That's how I feel about Twitter! :-)
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Now that is an *excellent* reason to be on Facebook. The day is not far off when I imagine I will be doing the same thing (my oldest son is 9 right now.) I look forward to posting inane parental comments on his wall. ;) (Not really, I'll probably just lurk in the hopes he'll forget I'm observing his online interactions ... )
If someone starts driving you nuts with their posts (for me it is when they constantly brag on their exercising routines), you can "hide" them from view.I am absolutely going to have to figure out how to do this. I initially just friended everyone back because I figured why not, given that I'm never on Facebook, but I find myself irritated at even just encountering a few people on the rare occasions when I do log in ( ... )
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