Comments | elcachafaz: Fuck yesterday's castles, they're all broken.

elcachafaz

Fuck yesterday's castles, they're all broken.

Jan 16, 2008 13:44

I hate confusion, I hate not knowing what's going on with relationships, friendships, my future, anything. I hate giving 110% to people who make me an "option" at best and then realizing that I have only been giving 5% to people who make me a priority. And I hate getting manipulative letters from ex-boyfriends that remind me of why I can't fucking ( Read more... )

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rcbarnes January 16 2008, 23:30:24 UTC

The best response is silence. He knows you got it because he didn't get it back. He knows you read it because you're _you_. Contact can do only harm, but you already know that.

mojkiwi January 17 2008, 21:48:51 UTC

You already know my opinion...
Good lucky my love...
And babe, love my not conquer all, but that doesn't mean it's not going to somehow work out.

sbrtooth1 January 22 2008, 18:38:50 UTC

hm I don't really see how this is a bad thing. He finally is getting it. He's finally accepting that he's a selfish coward who doesn't deserve you and that you really are better off not speaking to him. Maybe now he will leave you alone. How is this confusing?

elcachafaz January 23 2008, 19:39:13 UTC

Oh, if only it were true that he's finally getting it. But he isn't--this letter is just him telling me what I want to hear. It's manipulative because he knows me too well--my first reaction was to cry and feel guilty (I actually had to go into the bathroom at work and cry), and to beg HIM for forgiveness. That's exactly what he wanted ( ... )

sbrtooth1 January 29 2008, 17:04:43 UTC

I think it's shortsighted to say that it's purely manipulative. People who are proud people, like Andre clearly is, don't readily admit to their own shortcomings just for the sake of manipulating someone. He might truly believe those things he wrote but he is so selfish that he can't let you go at the same time - even if it's the right thing to do.

You're the one in control of how you respond, not him. If you actually believed you had control over your ability to respond to this I doubt you'd be freaking out about as much as you are/did. It's your choice to pick up the phone when he calls and it's your choice whether or not you beg him for forgiveness. It's always been your choice just like it's his choice to be a liar and a coward.