Sometimes I wonder what the hell I was thinking, becoming a mom. I think I needed to do some more things for myself before taking on mothering
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hey you,the feelings you are having are normal...and you probably are being attacked spiritually. you ARE a good mum. Let's hope your mum is buying that jacket for you. Is it even her style? I know what it's like to be an independent woman who has seemed to have lost her live-ly-hood...but your life has just begun...I really think the best for you n your family is that Jer gets that "better job",where he is payed what his work is worth...Financial stress is the worst for a family...and if you had 'spending money' all three of you would do more and maybe feel more relaxed...yeah,call me materialistic...but money does make a difference...I mean you already have the wonderful family--that's what counts,thus money is what's missing...being a woman,clothes are extremely important to us...that's never going to change...it's our culture and it's actually in every culture..women are suppose to get dolled up...or that's what we are taught...and you know what...i don't think it's bad,'cos i enjoy it
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if only parents were as devoted as you, or should i say, if only those who became parents were as devoted as you, the world would be a much better place for us all...
I used to get those same feelings. I knew that I had been exceedingly blessed with a wonderful family, but didn't have time or money for myself.
I think that the longer you're a Mom, the better able you are to handle things & work things out. I used to wear clothes I didn't like because I had to buy what we could afford. Now, I buy something new every couple of weeks, like a skirt or a belt, something that doesn't cost too much, but that I could really use.
It does get better, just hang in there. I will be praying for you.
Been there, often I still am. Having a job doesn't really help any either, it just seems like it would. When Simone gets a little older you will be able to sew more, and maybe you can really make a go of a home based business. After all, you are really talented! But money, I don't think that ever comes, at least we are still waiting...I get really depressed looking at my friends who had opportunities I didn't, and I get really envious and bitchy about it because I never had anything handed to me, but ya know what-- You and I are the ONLY people I know happily married, that must say something about us. Also remember, it is really depressing staying home with a baby. EVERY mom gets depressed, angry, and wishes they had never had children at some point. Its okay to feel that way every once in a while, thats a good time to schedule some Lisa time. For example, sew a new dress and go see KMFDM.
Whee! Good Idea! Yeah, I get so incredibly wrapped up in what I don't have, sometimes. I wish I wouldn't do that.
Thank you for the encouragement.
xoxo
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I think that the longer you're a Mom, the better able you are to handle things & work things out. I used to wear clothes I didn't like because I had to buy what we could afford. Now, I buy something new every couple of weeks, like a skirt or a belt, something that doesn't cost too much, but that I could really use.
It does get better, just hang in there. I will be praying for you.
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Thank you for the encouragement.
xoxo
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