Hmm good point; Even though it's not sex, it's still a sexually-charged activity. I wouldn't consider doing the whole feeder thing with someone I weren't able to be involved with (i.e., a married person
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Well, about explaining to your partner, there's a good page on this that helps people outside the fetish understand where we're coming from. http://www.deviantdesires.com/map/fas.html
This site reports on many different rare (and not so rare) fetishes and explains them in ways that people outside the fetish can understand. I know I learned more about different fetishes I didn't get before. It's apparently there to accompany a book called Deviant Desires (which I wish I had... human sexuality is one of my major academic interests).
Anyway, this should help people come out to their partners.
Ok.. so I'm attached and my partner doesn't share my enthusiasm for feederism. He knows I'm intrigued by it, but I'm not actively gaining and it doesn't consume my entire life. We've been together almost 8 years.. it's not like I'm going to give up on a perfectly wonderful relationship just because he doesn't like one thing I do. There's things he likes that I don't, so you know, a bit of give and take always has to be involved in relationships. Whether it's sexually..or what to watch on tv. Just the way it goes.
And that's fine. You don't mind that your partner isn't into it. He doesn't mind that you are. As you said, it doesn't consume your entire life.
I was more talking about the people that it seems to be one of their main sexual turnons but they're complaining about being unhappy that they can't do their feeder thing.
Perhaps I just don't get the whole monogamy thing. Monogamy has to come from the heart, not from the fear of losing the other person.
Anyway, as long as everyone is cool with what's going on and is happy, that's what really matters, right?
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Oh, back to the post.
Well, about explaining to your partner, there's a good page on this that helps people outside the fetish understand where we're coming from. http://www.deviantdesires.com/map/fas.html
This site reports on many different rare (and not so rare) fetishes and explains them in ways that people outside the fetish can understand. I know I learned more about different fetishes I didn't get before. It's apparently there to accompany a book called Deviant Desires (which I wish I had... human sexuality is one of my major academic interests).
Anyway, this should help people come out to their partners.
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Interesting page... I'm going to show that to more people. Also, Wikipedia has a good article on feederism... It's very non-biased and informative.
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I was more talking about the people that it seems to be one of their main sexual turnons but they're complaining about being unhappy that they can't do their feeder thing.
Perhaps I just don't get the whole monogamy thing. Monogamy has to come from the heart, not from the fear of losing the other person.
Anyway, as long as everyone is cool with what's going on and is happy, that's what really matters, right?
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