I'm Back

[elemental_fey]

I wanted to take a moment to post and apologize to those of you whom I upset with my last post. It has been brought to my attention that Live Journal was very likely used to trigger unresolved issues from High School that I really needed to look at

Comments

[punurple]

I'm so sorry that you have had such a horrible experience in the past. I can't even begin to imagine what it was like for you. I can tel you that I agree when you say people in school are so mean. I remember how mean spirited all the girls were in middle school, and I can't believe some of the comments I hear in the hallways of my highschool. It surprises me even more that the teachers hear it and never do anything about it. I guess it's so common that they just accept it.

Yeah, LJ is like highschool. You have to work really hard and be in the right place at the right time to have lots and lots of people that read and comment on your journal. Frankly, I don't think I would be able to keep up with it all!

I hope that the life you have now is better than it was, especially when it seems to me that you have a partner that loves you very much and would go to the ends of the world for you. I hope that you cherish her for the rarity she is!!

[featherxquill]

Geh, I had written this rather long winded bunch of stuff about online popularity, but then I clicked post and LJ ate it, so I will sum it up thus: Real friendship is more imporatnt than popularity. Many users have heaps and heaps of friends/comments because they post mammoth amounts of fandom-related stuff. As long as you have some good friends online that love to talk to you/read your stuff/rp with you etc, you are loved. Quality over quantity, and all. :)

[jaybee65]

Fandom popularity requires constant online activity and maintenance -- and to a certain degree, a kind of provocativeness that can alienate just as many people as it attracts. It's very much a mixed bag, IMO. Instead of pursuing that, I've always been quite satisfied finding small corners of the internet where I can socialize in a more intimate and relaxed way with people who have similar interests. Finding ten thoughtful people to have regular exchanges with is more rewarding to me than getting 300 comments from virtual strangers.

Your family background and childhood sound terribly tough -- but everything I've observed about you indicates that you came through it to become a remarkable person.

[tetleybag]

::hugs:: You're arriving at the right conclusions, dear, and I applaud you for that!! Post because you want to post, not in order to elicit a certain response (because you will always end up disappointed). Have the self-confidence that the entry was good because you made it and regard comments as extra benefits. I read several blogs written by professional journalists, and they hardly get comments at all, so the comment is not a reflection of how 'good' that entry was, but it comes when it triggers a reaction. As to what triggers reactions with whom, you never know, but isn't that one of the most interesting aspects about this huge marketplace of opinions, personal stories, bits of news and fruits of creativity?

As for popularity--it's like with so many things in life. The less you try for it, the more easily it comes. Weird, but true.