Ultra-LDRs

[elf_master]

I've been through long distance things before. Email, IM, and frequent phone calls cut through the distance. But now I've got an issue I haven't been through before. With a twelve hour time difference it's pretty easy to have regular IM conversations twice a day, nearly every day. But even with that there's a problem: mind set. I go home,

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[neenerface]

I am currently experiencing the same thing. My owner is in Japan and we're on the same cycle as you. We've been trying like heck to set time aside on weekends, which doesn't always work since my Thursday is His Friday. I guess all I can say is, I really truly feel your pain and I wish you a speedy trip home.

[elf_master]

I think some time together will let us ground things

That's an excellent way to put it. We weren't really able to ground and anchor our situation before I left. Grounding things will be very helpful I think.

It'll be wonderful whatever happens.

[cubanchic]

Uggh boy do I know what you mean. I can only offer suggestions based on what works for me with my agents. (remember some of these guys I've developed a freindship relationship with) I've limited thier calls to twice a week where I will lose sleep but since I am aware of it can make up the lost sleep. (hence the 4am calls from Yurri

[elf_master]

One day he'll lose a few hours sleep the other day I will, hence it's only one day per week but in reality it's two relaxed conversations per week excluding weekends.

Unfortunately that doesn't work on 12 hours difference. There's just no way to stay up a little late and find a mutually agreeable time. One of us is off work, and the other is at or going-to work, no matter what time is picked. So even if I got up realllly earlier, I'd still have a different mental space. Weekends can work as we can do late-morning/late-night and be relaxed. Outside that, I don't know what to do.

60 hours to go! 36 hours to take off!

[agtiger]

How long do you two expect this to be the reality of your lives (ie, when can you get back in the same time zone, and preferably, house)?

Best of luck to you in sorting this out and hanging in there, however you manage to do it.

[agtiger]

Well I'm glad your upcoming visit is so close. :-)

And 1/2 a year isn't too bad... So long as you can handle the separation for the duration, it will make the moving back all the sweeter.

Best of luck, and have a fantastic visit.