Cluster f**k much?
Our cable/internet was down - for DAYS! It stopped working Friday morning and it turned out that a fiber-optic thingy under the ground broke and a bunch of us on the street didn't have cable... but our cable was also the source of our internet and phone service, too, so we were really cut off from everything.
So.... Going back to work at that place was a complete cluster fuck. I shouldn't have done it, but in my defense, I wasn't given all the information ahead of time. If I'd known what I know now, I'd never have considered it.
The story goes like this... assuming I can get it all out and still have it make any sense.... When I left, I attempted to be as caught up on the job I was doing as possible. It wasn't caught up, completely, but I tried my best. After I was gone, as happens to anyone that leaves a job, a couple of mistakes/omissions came to light. But, as usual, things were bent out of proportion and the woman named Tina, who was the Assistant Administrator of the company stirred up everyone and got people really pissed about me. We're talking about physical therapists who apparently are almost as bad at being divas as doctors are. Please forgive me if there are any PT's or docs out there reading this....
Anyway, apparently, Sharon, aka Lucy, fought hard to get Tina to allow me to come back to work and Tina only agreed to it if it were on a temporary basis, till they found someone else to do my job permanently. Now, Sharon did tell me that when I came back it was going to be "temp to hire" but, in her words, "You know you ain't goin' nowhere..." However, she NEVER told me that there was any animosity for me in the company or that other people didn't want me to come back or that she had to fight to get me allowed back or get me the extra money. If I'd known she was going to stick her neck out like that, I never would have let her go to the trouble.
I went in there last Tuesday, walking on cloud nine, because I thought I was WANTED there and I was going to be back with my friends. The month that I spent off from there had given me time to "forget" the bad stuff and just miss the good things. By the 2nd day, I'd been let into the fact that Tina thought I'd made those mistakes when I left INTENTIONALLY to make Sharon look bad, that Tina was talking bad about me to the therapists and that I was being scrutinized very carefully and to watch out.
I couldn't believe that Tina was doing that! Even if I was leaving a job where I HATED everyone there, I'd NEVER do anything to sabotage the company or anyone there. It's just not in my nature to do hateful, deceitful things. Besides, I was SURE that I had a good work reference there and I wanted it to make my resume look good because I've had some bad experiences in the past. Why would I do something intentionally?
Sharon said she believed that I would never do anything intentionally and to just hold tight. Tina had given her notice and was leaving in two weeks and everything would calm down after she was gone. But by my 3rd day, my stomach was in an uproar and I was just miserable and had lost all confidence that I'd gained previously. I can't go into every single detail but suffice it to say that by Thursday night, I called Rick (he was at work), crying, and we decided I would quit. I called Sharon and talked to her for a while, letting her know how I felt and what I wanted to do. She managed to talk me into staying at least a little longer and I agreed to stay one more week. I went back on Friday, but by noon, I knew I couldn't do it. I let Sharon know and she tried to tell me that all the problems were caused by Tina and that Tina would be leaving a week early, basically, that day would be Tina's last, and that things would be really better once she was gone. She couldn't go into any details, but told me to just wait and see and that "we'd talk" over the weekend. She had a full weekend of stuff so I figured she'd call me when she had time.
By 9 pm on Sunday, I hadn't heard from her. Rick and I had talked during the weekend and he really didn't want me to go back there. It upset him to see me so upset, plus, it now costs me $40 to fill my gas tank and it's 18 miles to work. Also, the traffic has DOUBLED since I quit at the end of April. I suppose that has to do with it being tourist season. I don't know.
All in all, the cons outweigh the pros for staying at this job. I called Sharon at 9:30 pm and told her I wasn't coming back. She didn't take it well. She went off on me, telling me that I was making her look like a fool, that I was proving the other people right that I "couldn't do the job" that she'd stuck her neck out for me and that I was just giving up.
I just listened and let her get it off her chest. I didn't really have much to say anyway and didn't want it to escalate into a fight. She was hurt and I let her vent, but at the same time, I don't feel she was entirely right in the things she said to me.
I never asked her to try to get me back. I got talked into coming back. If I'd known that she had to go through what she was going through, I never would have let her. I would never have wanted to walk back into what, essentially felt like a firing squad.
Oh, I could go on and on, and perhaps I'm just a coward and blew everything, but I had to do what I believed was best for myself and my husband. I might be proven wrong... I don't know. I know now that I can't use that job as a reference. I know I can't use the medical temp company as a reference anymore either, because Tina was in tight with them and she has, most likely, poisoned that reference, because that's what she does...
I might have lost a friend for good. I hope not. Pam (Ethel) says to just lay low for a few days and then try sending an email to Sharon... We'll see what happens. If she doesn't come around and understand why I had to do what I did without making it about her, then perhaps she wasn't the friend I thought she was. I don't know.
In the meantime, I'm looking for another job, again.
I just wish life was easier.... but if wishes were horses, right?
So.... Going back to work at that place was a complete cluster fuck. I shouldn't have done it, but in my defense, I wasn't given all the information ahead of time. If I'd known what I know now, I'd never have considered it.
The story goes like this... assuming I can get it all out and still have it make any sense.... When I left, I attempted to be as caught up on the job I was doing as possible. It wasn't caught up, completely, but I tried my best. After I was gone, as happens to anyone that leaves a job, a couple of mistakes/omissions came to light. But, as usual, things were bent out of proportion and the woman named Tina, who was the Assistant Administrator of the company stirred up everyone and got people really pissed about me. We're talking about physical therapists who apparently are almost as bad at being divas as doctors are. Please forgive me if there are any PT's or docs out there reading this....
Anyway, apparently, Sharon, aka Lucy, fought hard to get Tina to allow me to come back to work and Tina only agreed to it if it were on a temporary basis, till they found someone else to do my job permanently. Now, Sharon did tell me that when I came back it was going to be "temp to hire" but, in her words, "You know you ain't goin' nowhere..." However, she NEVER told me that there was any animosity for me in the company or that other people didn't want me to come back or that she had to fight to get me allowed back or get me the extra money. If I'd known she was going to stick her neck out like that, I never would have let her go to the trouble.
I went in there last Tuesday, walking on cloud nine, because I thought I was WANTED there and I was going to be back with my friends. The month that I spent off from there had given me time to "forget" the bad stuff and just miss the good things. By the 2nd day, I'd been let into the fact that Tina thought I'd made those mistakes when I left INTENTIONALLY to make Sharon look bad, that Tina was talking bad about me to the therapists and that I was being scrutinized very carefully and to watch out.
I couldn't believe that Tina was doing that! Even if I was leaving a job where I HATED everyone there, I'd NEVER do anything to sabotage the company or anyone there. It's just not in my nature to do hateful, deceitful things. Besides, I was SURE that I had a good work reference there and I wanted it to make my resume look good because I've had some bad experiences in the past. Why would I do something intentionally?
Sharon said she believed that I would never do anything intentionally and to just hold tight. Tina had given her notice and was leaving in two weeks and everything would calm down after she was gone. But by my 3rd day, my stomach was in an uproar and I was just miserable and had lost all confidence that I'd gained previously. I can't go into every single detail but suffice it to say that by Thursday night, I called Rick (he was at work), crying, and we decided I would quit. I called Sharon and talked to her for a while, letting her know how I felt and what I wanted to do. She managed to talk me into staying at least a little longer and I agreed to stay one more week. I went back on Friday, but by noon, I knew I couldn't do it. I let Sharon know and she tried to tell me that all the problems were caused by Tina and that Tina would be leaving a week early, basically, that day would be Tina's last, and that things would be really better once she was gone. She couldn't go into any details, but told me to just wait and see and that "we'd talk" over the weekend. She had a full weekend of stuff so I figured she'd call me when she had time.
By 9 pm on Sunday, I hadn't heard from her. Rick and I had talked during the weekend and he really didn't want me to go back there. It upset him to see me so upset, plus, it now costs me $40 to fill my gas tank and it's 18 miles to work. Also, the traffic has DOUBLED since I quit at the end of April. I suppose that has to do with it being tourist season. I don't know.
All in all, the cons outweigh the pros for staying at this job. I called Sharon at 9:30 pm and told her I wasn't coming back. She didn't take it well. She went off on me, telling me that I was making her look like a fool, that I was proving the other people right that I "couldn't do the job" that she'd stuck her neck out for me and that I was just giving up.
I just listened and let her get it off her chest. I didn't really have much to say anyway and didn't want it to escalate into a fight. She was hurt and I let her vent, but at the same time, I don't feel she was entirely right in the things she said to me.
I never asked her to try to get me back. I got talked into coming back. If I'd known that she had to go through what she was going through, I never would have let her. I would never have wanted to walk back into what, essentially felt like a firing squad.
Oh, I could go on and on, and perhaps I'm just a coward and blew everything, but I had to do what I believed was best for myself and my husband. I might be proven wrong... I don't know. I know now that I can't use that job as a reference. I know I can't use the medical temp company as a reference anymore either, because Tina was in tight with them and she has, most likely, poisoned that reference, because that's what she does...
I might have lost a friend for good. I hope not. Pam (Ethel) says to just lay low for a few days and then try sending an email to Sharon... We'll see what happens. If she doesn't come around and understand why I had to do what I did without making it about her, then perhaps she wasn't the friend I thought she was. I don't know.
In the meantime, I'm looking for another job, again.
I just wish life was easier.... but if wishes were horses, right?