The anonymous roommate.

[ellarcy]

The couch in our living room seems to be the bed of a rotating third roommate who isn't on the lease and doesn't contribute to bills or food. His face is different almost every time I see him (though it's usually my ex, but sometimes it's even a girl), but I can't recall many days when I've walked in to my living room and there hasn't been some

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[ai_honey]

[ellarcy]

No, he lives with his father. She's not very involved in his life, and I can't tell if it's her choice or the father's choice. I supposed I could turn off the wi-fi and just used the ethernet cable in my own room, since that's where the modem is. Technically we both pay for internet, but she owes me over $200 in various bills and it's in my name, so I guess it wouldn't be too bitchy to do that?

Meh.

I feel like our relationship would be fine if money wasn't an issue, but this has been going on so long, it seems like she's just telling me that our friendship isn't worth it to her. So I guess I've got to stop treating her like a friend. :/

[ai_honey]

[itriedbut]

Roommates are soo frustrating.. we should illustrate a book together to warn the masses about the dangers of roommates!

[kawaii_kenshin]

I know how much you care about her, but even if she's a good person (which I believe she is), you can't be her mother. I'm going through a similar situation with my current roomate (although not with rent). She's a great person and I liek her, but I have to do ALL the cleaning and pay for EVERYTHING because she can't be assed to get a job and spends all her money on booze and cigarettes. It's extremely frustrating.

I wish I had some advice to give you, but just know that you're not at all in the wrong. She needs to hold up her end of the rent if she's going to be living with you. As hard as it is, that's just life. The best you can do is try to help her get a job, but otherwise, it's her responsibility and you can't just let her not uphold her share, no matter how much you love her. :( *hugs* I hope things work themselves out.

[we_like_ike]

Oh man, I'm sorry to hear about your situation. Wish there was something I could really do to help.

I'm sort of curious, does she feel like it's her place, or just that she's rooming with you? I mean, that sort of got me more involved with the upkeep of places I've lived, so maybe that could work?

I don't know I'm kind of talking out of my ass and I'm just happy to see you post again, even though we've only met IRL all of one time.