Comments | emcmolloy: I need some words of wisdom for my daughter...

emcmolloy

I need some words of wisdom for my daughter...

May 12, 2005 12:48

I’m assuming most of the women on my list are of an age where we’ve all experience heartbreak. How did you get over a first love? What coping mechanisms did you use? I’m trying to help but I’m so angry with her ex that I just want her to get over him NOW and not waste another tear on minute thinking about him. OK, so that’s not realistic but I’m ( Read more... )

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stillife May 12 2005, 14:06:02 UTC

Aww, Liz. Sorry to hear about this. I guess it's just a rite of passage for all of us. Sounds like you're already doing all you can to help, by listening and being there for her. I remember when I was an angst-ridden teenager, my grandmother told me, "This too shall pass." I was like, thanks a lot! (Of course, I didn't say that, lol.) But it really is true. Time heals all wounds and time wounds all heels ( ... )

emcmolloy May 12 2005, 14:43:31 UTC

Emma's big on self-help books (and Lifetime Original Movies)

Thanks, I needed a good laugh.

Being active is a great antidote to depression.

That is my advise too, just keep moving forward, the less active she stays the more time she spends thinking about it. Brian is being surprisingly empathetic, I figured he would dismiss her feelings and all the crying but he's really been good with her.

I just hope she doesn't take him back. Then you (and she) may be in for a real emotional rollercoaster.

I think, had they broken up for any other reason than him not being able to keep his dick in his own pants, there may have been hope for them. But she knows she deserves better and refuses to settle for less.

brackley_2of3 May 12 2005, 16:40:40 UTC

Sadly, I've been down this road several times. My daughters are 22 & 19 and each has been dating since she was 11-12 yrs old ( ... )

emcmolloy May 12 2005, 18:24:16 UTC

Bottom line? All you can do is be supportive. Offer a shoulder to cry on. Make sure your daughter knows the split isn't a negative inflection on her. Give her time to grieve and then try to quietly encourage her to resume activities that once brought her happiness.

Thanks for your thoughts. She keeps struggling with the "what did I do to deserve this?" and both Brian and I have told her numerous times "You did nothing wrong, none of this is your fault". Hopefully, it will sink in if we just keep repeating it. :))