Truth and Consequences

[emilygrrl]

Recently a friend of mine has discovered my history as Chris. This is a friend who until now has only known me as Emily, and was previously unaware of my birth gender. This is a good friend, someone I value greatly. Before I write any further, I apologize for not telling you of my past and I apologize if this has now created mistrust between us. I

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[hypnotic_chaos]

Emmers, you always have been and always will be Emily to me. I simply commented to a mutual aquaintence of ours that I wasn't in the mood for any more surprises, and in the list of the things that had been sprung on me in the last 24 hours was your transgenderism. I had truely known about it for sometime, but as in the case of my dear boyfriend, I felt that if I was correct you would tell me in your own time, and if i was incorrect than no harm done. My anger this evening was in no way centered around your lack of disclosure but simply on the fact I have been getting conflicting stories at odd times. It was that that caused my anger, nothing more. You have always been Emily to me, you could never be anything else. Whether you were Chris or not is never going to be the issue. Just as my boyfriend has always been as he is now, so shall he always be in my eyes. Nothing can make me see you as anything other than Emily...well unless you change your name....but other than that you will always be, always have been, will continue to be till

Don't give

[asian_tom]

Disclosure is human, as is to err. To be human shouldn't be frowned upon. I think the problem some people have, is that society has a gause that prevents people from seeing the humanity in transgendered and GLB. They disassociate and push away these people, even take away their humanity, refering to them as different. But that, is also the nature of humanity. They are scared of what they can't understand, to simple their lives they just remove to complexities of each and every difficult natured equation. I'll admit myself, that I have done this in the past. I'm not proud of it, but then again, it's human nature. The best thing anyone can do for an issue like this is to educate. I myself, am bettering myself and others around me by simple attempts of understanding and supporting. Nowadays that can be considered to be superhuman. Not all of us mortals are graced with the capability of understanding. So have patience, your time will come. In the mean time, don't give up. There are still those of us who can appreciate the