This is an interesting little label I picked up somewhere ( Read more... )

 My inbox was graced today by an email from Endemol - yes, that biiig company that does a lot of channel 4 stuff, like Big Brother - asking me if I wanted to be in an interview for a factual prime-time series. I was a bit apprehensive; I know channel 4 can do good documentaries, and also a 'prime time factual series' could well be something like ( Read more... )

One of the most commonly asked qustions newbies to AVEN ask is, 'am I asexual??' And list all the things that they're unsure about.

I thought I could help these people out.


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Over and over again, I see asexuality boiled down to two words - 'no sex'. This isn't correct.

Gay people should *not* be defined by who or how they sleep with someone, although it happens. But you can understand - someone is not straight just because they have slept with someone of the opposite sex. Someone is not gay just beacuse they sleep with ( Read more... )

I got a lovely comment on a post from a woman who'd spent more than 20 years of her life not knowing that the 'thing that was wrong' was that she was asexual. And thanks for the link to AVEN.

How can I not be vocal if I can reach just one more person?

A stupid thing people say to justify their prejudices/avoid having to think too hard: 'Homosexuality/asexuality/anything not strictly missionary and heteronormative just isn't natural ( Read more... )

I should avoid reading threads like this: http://www.thestudentroom.co.uk/showthread.php?t=610060

They just depress me.

First off, almost everyone equates ase with no sex.

Secondly, someone not having/enjoying sex because of their orientation is seen as a ridiculously insurmountable thing, although someone not doing, or putting off those things ( Read more... )

While writing about how romantic leanings and asexuality can be summed up with good ol' slang, I recognised my other problem with the 'asexual' label.

It makes people presume they know all about my lack of sex life. This is pretty frustrating.

I am aware that a lot of people don't really know the intricacies and complexities of being ase, and this ( Read more... )

I've identified as asexual for nigh-on 4 years (ok, for 3 years, 8 months, 8 days...), and I still really hate the word. (If you're new to this, check this out!: www.thestudentroom.co.uk/wiki/asexual)

It sounds very sterile. It's etymology is based upon absence, upon lack. It gets mixed up with asexual reproduction ('No, I cannot have my own babies ( Read more... )

So, a new blog, new beginnings of things. This is a place where fragile little thoughts of mine are given a place to stretch their wings before I forget about them, and are likely to be of the sexuality, gender and relationships kind, although, knowing me, something bizarre might slip through the net and weirdness may happen!

So for my first blog ( Read more... )