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empyrealfantasy

Doubts, Fears, and Kitty Cats.

Oct 29, 2009 19:46

Buddy, my very large orange tabby, passed on this morning. I hope he rests peacefully.

:(

This entry is to be a little bit of a ramble on my own discontent. Feel free to disregard.

I originally wrote this a couple of weeks ago, but tonight I feel the need to add on to it, and I thin having the background of the first will help anyone who reads.
( Shuddering and stuttering to a halt. )

real life

Comments 12

dmlpacker October 30 2009, 03:49:53 UTC

*hugs* I'm sorry. I'm in no position to be handing out advice, so I'll just offer cookiesandlove!

Update whenever you want. Focus on your life first *nods*

tofu_queen October 30 2009, 19:08:32 UTC

I was in the same exact spot as you. I talked with him nonstop, finally saw him, and then talking suddenly was something that happened for maybe ten or fifteen minutes per day. We now live together, and things are better. I wouldn't say they're perfectly amazing, but eh. I know his problem was that he just didn't like talking on the phone, which was weird because we always talked so much before that, but I dunno. What I would do is talk to him, tell him your problems and tell him that if it continues, you are thinking of breaking it off. From his reaction and then if he seems to try to be addressing what you said were problems, decide from there. Of course, you don't not want to go through with this and then spend your life wondering what could have been. Then again, you have a daughter that you have to keep in mind too ( ... )

tofu_queen October 30 2009, 19:11:04 UTC

And quick clear up: the "but eh" was more of a I don't think we'll spend the rest of our lives together and get married, but I still love him and he's one of my best friends. :)

scorpionvoices October 30 2009, 20:59:05 UTC

Love you, bbs, no matter what happens. BELIEVE IT!! :*

randy_o October 31 2009, 00:03:08 UTC

About Buddy . . . {{{hugs}}}

About the other, I wish I had some words of wisdom. One thing I've noticed about both friendships and relationships is that the longer you know each other the less you have to say, because you know each other pretty well after a while, and you've said it all. Hell, after forty years you're finishing each other's sentences. That's not necessarily a good thing, mind you . . .

The more I fear relocation, the less I actively plan.

The less I actively plan, the more doubt niggles at the back of my mind about going through with it.

There's always a moment of cold feet after a big decision. How will you ever know if you don't give it a try?

A wise man once told me to FIGHT for what I wanted, for who I loved, and not to let go even when odds stack up against me.

You're pretty good at fighting for what you want. ;)

iapetusneume October 31 2009, 05:58:19 UTC

One of the most important things to remember is that people are not perfect. When the luster of a relationship naturally fades (as it does with time), we start to see the other's imperfections in a clearer light. This is when the real test begins, and you discover if you might be able to stay together "for better or for worse ( ... )

iapetusneume October 31 2009, 23:43:51 UTC

Your situation feels very similar to my own. When I relocate we will have been seeing one another about a year, and though we both have things about the other that drive us batty, I feel that we really are willing to fight for it ( ... )

empyrealfantasy October 31 2009, 23:44:47 UTC

That was me. -__- Damn anonymous.