Need vs want

[emsporter]

Someone posted something (on facebook, natch) that got me thinking.

I don’t want to be needed. Need implies someone is dependent on me. Need implies that I am something they can’t get anywhere else. Need implies weakness, that only I can fill a gap, that they have no choice but to depend on me. Need implies that I have no choice but to be there

Comments

[meepettemu]

I used to say that to an ex all the time. We split up. Partly because she couldn't understand why I didn't *need* her. I don't want to be needed. I want to be wanted.

[dexypunk]

I thought I needed my ex. When he left, I was demolished by it. I don't need my husband. It is very freeing to not.
The only people I need or am needed by are my children and parents, which suits me fine.

[violentsmile]

I love this!