Hmmmm....Well, I have a completely different thought on cravings than you do, but that's not really the point of your post, eh? ;-P
I think...I think he was probably very reactionary for someone who is supposed to be a close friend. I would assume he knows you and your personality, and to unfollow over a tweet like that is a little silly. It's likely he had something happen to him that day or week that made him exceptionally sensitive to the message you were trying to get across and it just came at a bad moment in his life. But then again, tweets are notoriously easy to misread. 140 characters makes it almost impossible to convey tone and subtext and they can easily come across as curt or inflammatory. Twitter has probably ended a good many relationships because of that issue.
Not sure if any of that is even relevant to your situation, but it's what your post brought up in me. No real conclusion, I guess. Just a few random thoughts and ideas. Regardless, I'm sorry this happened to you ((hugs))
G, Thanks. :) And it's not stating my exact position on cravings-if you're craving foods that are good for you, that are full of nutrients, well, then, I'm guessing you're probably low on those nutrients. I crave spinach all the time. I also crave vegan ice cream. And sugary foods, which I think are just me wanting those foods. And being addicted to sugar.
Wow. Seems like quite the drastic reaction to a tweet. If you spent all day every day "preaching" at people through your twitter account, I could understand the unfollow, but not necessarily the snarky comment about it.
But that's not what you do.
And it doesn't sound like he's living his proclaimed philosophy, is he, if he drops you when you say one thing he doesn't agree with? Sounds like a hypocrite to me. Because really, your statement doesn't impinge on him. At worst it's an in-your-face wake up call to all the people mindlessly shoving crap in their faces. At best it's a philosophical discussion starter. Either way he could easily choose to ignore that one little tweet.
I got so frustrated with the fact that I never tweet that I deleted my account. my opinion is that it's a complete and total waste of time but that's just me. I don't think your tweet sounded rude at all. It's just how people interpret stuff in small bits and pieces (140 characters) which again, I think is silly and a waste of time. :)
I kind of find his reaction hypocritical. Sure your statement was directed outwards and thus could be considered 'preachy' when it's something you don't want to hear but it's not like you flood your timeline with it. It was one comment. Something you have an absolute right to do. And he can't deal with that? Kinda pathetic. You two aren't the same person so you're going to have differences of opinion. To drop somebody the first time you don't agree with something they say means your going to drop everybody at one point or another.
Still, if you do want his friendship, then accept that you hurt his feelings and offer an apology. If your friendship isn't worth that much to you, then let it go and move on. Because even if you don't think you did anything wrong, apologies aren't about who's right and who's wrong. It's about who was big enough to push their own ego aside for the sake of friendship.
He's a prick. That comment was a retweet, any twitter novice knows that, and frankly it wasn't preachy, it was just you sharing something that spoke to you. Given the way you have undergone a drastic change of diet and lifestyle (in an extremely positive way), and that the comment is actually just acknowleding a psychological principle long discussed (the concept of pleasure rewards and how food links to our ways of dealing with stress, difficulty, general habit), it was ridiculous and assholish of him to unfollow.
And frankly, I reckon you're better off without that twit. Just IMHO.
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I think...I think he was probably very reactionary for someone who is supposed to be a close friend. I would assume he knows you and your personality, and to unfollow over a tweet like that is a little silly. It's likely he had something happen to him that day or week that made him exceptionally sensitive to the message you were trying to get across and it just came at a bad moment in his life. But then again, tweets are notoriously easy to misread. 140 characters makes it almost impossible to convey tone and subtext and they can easily come across as curt or inflammatory. Twitter has probably ended a good many relationships because of that issue.
Not sure if any of that is even relevant to your situation, but it's what your post brought up in me. No real conclusion, I guess. Just a few random thoughts and ideas. Regardless, I'm sorry this happened to you ((hugs))
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And it's not stating my exact position on cravings-if you're craving foods that are good for you, that are full of nutrients, well, then, I'm guessing you're probably low on those nutrients. I crave spinach all the time. I also crave vegan ice cream. And sugary foods, which I think are just me wanting those foods. And being addicted to sugar.
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But that's not what you do.
And it doesn't sound like he's living his proclaimed philosophy, is he, if he drops you when you say one thing he doesn't agree with? Sounds like a hypocrite to me. Because really, your statement doesn't impinge on him. At worst it's an in-your-face wake up call to all the people mindlessly shoving crap in their faces. At best it's a philosophical discussion starter. Either way he could easily choose to ignore that one little tweet.
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Still, if you do want his friendship, then accept that you hurt his feelings and offer an apology. If your friendship isn't worth that much to you, then let it go and move on. Because even if you don't think you did anything wrong, apologies aren't about who's right and who's wrong. It's about who was big enough to push their own ego aside for the sake of friendship.
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And frankly, I reckon you're better off without that twit. Just IMHO.
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