You really answered your own question with your observation that it wouldn't really be fair to either of you. Generally, when you're in a situation like that, it's pretty obvious to the other person that they're just a stand-in until the real thing becomes available - and that's a hard think to live with.
I know it's tempting - I've been in your shoes before, but I've also been on the other side of it, too. I would really advise against doing anything unless you start having some real feelings for s!Sara. You'll both be the better for it in the long run. :)
Well, even if I wanted to date Sara, it's not like I even could. She already said she "doesn't want a relationship" or whatever, so I'm pretty much stuck with things as they are.
Which makes me mad, because my teenage boy hormones are telling me to jump all over her...lol...
It's only natural to be attracted to attractive girls... I mean, it's the first thing you notice. About her not wanting a relationship, yeah, there's either a good reason why or it's a cover for something else. BUT, if I were you, I wouldn't pursue her and talk to her about why she doesn't want a relationship if you really don't want to go out with her... I mean, most likely her reasons are personal and it's not fair to her, if you try to dig that out of her in hopes of her going out with you WITH your feelings displaced for someone else. If your feelings aren't for her right now then you shouldn't go for it. If you do, chances are, you'll end up hurting her and/or yourself.
Yeah, you're right...it's just that it kind of makes me mad that there is this attractive, amazing girl, and I can't be with her, becuase of my own feelings for someone else, and becuase she doesn't want it.
Not that I ever want those feelings for her to go away...it's just that sometimes they tend to hinder some other things...but I think that in the long run, I'll be better off...
..or I'll have wasted part of my life chasing a dream.
At this point, I have no clue either way.
But, you're right. I'll continue with things as they are with Sara, and change nothing. It's for the best, anyway.
Yeah, that really sucks... especially since she doesn't want a relationship.
You may be expecting too much again. I'd say just let things happen and see how it turns out. Who knows, your feelings may go away for the other person and things may work out for you and this girl. It's a cliche, but if it's meant to happen, it'll happen. If not, it's okay, you'll still be great friends with her.
No prob. Good luck with all that and glad to be of help :)
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I know it's tempting - I've been in your shoes before, but I've also been on the other side of it, too. I would really advise against doing anything unless you start having some real feelings for s!Sara. You'll both be the better for it in the long run. :)
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Which makes me mad, because my teenage boy hormones are telling me to jump all over her...lol...
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Not that I ever want those feelings for her to go away...it's just that sometimes they tend to hinder some other things...but I think that in the long run, I'll be better off...
..or I'll have wasted part of my life chasing a dream.
At this point, I have no clue either way.
But, you're right. I'll continue with things as they are with Sara, and change nothing. It's for the best, anyway.
Thanks so much for your help, Kori. :)
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You may be expecting too much again. I'd say just let things happen and see how it turns out. Who knows, your feelings may go away for the other person and things may work out for you and this girl. It's a cliche, but if it's meant to happen, it'll happen. If not, it's okay, you'll still be great friends with her.
No prob. Good luck with all that and glad to be of help :)
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I'll just let it be for now, like you said. So now I guess only time will tell.
Thanks again! :)
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