Doing Badly & Letting Go

[eoma_p]

I come by obsessive perfectionism honestly.  It's an affliction both my parents had.  My mother said, and I quote, "I don't expect much, just perfection."  I remember my father telling me that he made a C in life -- the first person in his entire family to got to college, a man with a Medical Degree, a Board certified Pathologist, a talented artist

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[onyxtwilight]

Perhaps "am I satisfied with what I've done?" would be a better self-evaluation question?

Then again, maybe not. :-/

[eoma_p]

Perhaps someday when I learn to be satisfied with less than perfect. That's the heart of the problem of course...

[onyxtwilight]

I'm sure you've heard it before, but it bears repeating:

"Strive for excellence, not perfection."

:-)

[sabrinamari]

i love you best when we're all draped on the couch and Butterbutt is barking and there is unfolded laundry everywhere and audrey and rose and you are laughing and snuggling me and ben and trent are racing around and it's a mess and we are watching some crazy thing and nothing is tidy and we are all happy.

i love your imperfection.

...and we are eating that gross oklahoma velveta and Rotel stuff.

[shades_of_nyx]

I was a "meets expectations" rocket scientist for my entire career. I never got used to it. The rest of the world kept saying, "You're a rocket scientist!" My internal monologue kept repeating, "Not good enough!" Ya know what, even 5 years later, I wish I'd worked a little less and played a little more when I could.

[gwisteria]

Well, I had to get around a lot of that for my daughter, she is sweet, kind, very creative and wise but academically she is not an A student and I had a very wise 2nd grade teacher of hers tell me " if you can encourage and praise her C's she will continue to get A's in her personal life " so we worked hard to do that she got to high school and insisted on going to a mainstream high school that was very academic and I learned to praise Dpluses. When she got an assignment to be queen Victoria in a class that required a written paper, a visual aid, and dressing up and being interviewed with questions she wrote as queen Victoria, other kids wrote long beautifully researched type written papers and made a little poster, and put on a hat and got B's and A's Luci put on a completely researched Victorian mourning dress, complete with petticoat, a weird doily looking thing on her head, made a comic book about her life, as her visual ad, and answered questions in a passable accent but only wrote a passable research paper and got a C she

If only

[zig81]

How do you know if you've made a mistake with your health? Life is full of guidelines and recommendations but no referee blows the whistle on the two thousandth calorie and declares the meal over. Remember George Carlin: 'saliva has been found to cause cancer but only when swallowed in small quantities over a long period of time." Coffee news alone is confusing. It appears that one cup a day is bad for you but two cups a day staves of dementia but three cups causes kidney damage.

I'll get off the soapbox now. Just a little harangue a day is good for you.