Comments | epistolic: [meta]: rape and responsibility

epistolic

[meta]: rape and responsibility

Jan 15, 2014 17:44

Today, as I was scrolling my way through Tumblr, I came across a blog called Women Against Feminism. Being curious, I clicked on the blog, and was instantly baffled by the multitude of things being discussed and derided by these women. Some of these attitudes are just so confusing, such as this one:

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Comments 17

geckoholic January 15 2014, 19:51:53 UTC

I just... WHOA. How can some people not get it into their heads that crimes aren't automatically caused by the victim as soon as sex is involved? It baffles me. So does that tumblr, seriously, WHAT THE FUCK.

epistolic January 16 2014, 04:57:34 UTC

YEAH LIKE DUDE YOU MADE THE CHOICE TO RAPE SOMEONE I DON'T CARE IF SHE WAS LYING NAKED IN YOUR BED WITH A PACK OF CONDOMS NEXT TO HER, IF THERE IS ANY DOUBT ABOUT HER CONSENT, YOU HAVE RAPED HER AND IT IS YOUR FAULT

geckoholic January 16 2014, 11:32:51 UTC

EXACTLY. What about that is so fucking hard to understand?? Just. Yeah. Baffling.

safaiagem January 16 2014, 17:10:27 UTC

As someone who was drunk and got taken advantage of by someone I considered a friend this pisses me off to no end.

epistolic January 18 2014, 13:45:14 UTC

Oh seriously? Ugh. What happened afterwards? Did he/she apologise for it? That's so awful :( the worst kind of betrayal is by your friends :(

safaiagem January 18 2014, 14:58:33 UTC

No, we have never talked about it. I was convinced by a lot of people at the time that since it was a 'don't remember saying no don't remember saying yes' type of thing that it wasn't a big deal. We continue to run in the same social circles to this day. It took me a long time to be able to look at him without hating him. Not long after it happened I had to lock myself in a potter potty at a soccer tailgate because he was being a jerk. It got better after a long time but I have not and will not ever let my guard down like that again.

epistolic January 19 2014, 05:25:05 UTC

Wow. Yeah this is one of the big problems about rape, I think - people keep trying to convince the victim that it isn't a big deal, because I think they don't want to have to deal with the repercussions of it turning out to be rape; they don't want to rock the boat, you know? Which ends up making the victim self-blame, and also makes them feel a bit like everybody thinks they're delusional. I'm so sorry that this had to happen to you :(