I was with my mum when she left us, I wouldn't have had it any other way but it's a intensely personal decision, the most personal decision you'll ever have to make and one that can't be made for you. I'm sorry you're at that place now, that you have all this to deal with, but that decision - yours and yours alone, sweetheart, I'm sorry, but it's not something anyone can advise you on. You have to look into your heart and be guided by yourself, if you understand what I'm saying?
This is very personal & you obviously need to do what you feel is best. Just from my perspective - I missed saying a last goodbye to my Dad. I was driving there after getting the call & missed him by 5 minutes. It's a huge regret for me.
I held dad as he went. Mum died in her sleep. Mary was there for her mum... I can't really tell you what to do. It isn't anything to be scared of, that much I found, and something will always bite you in the bum after wards what ever you do. And you will grieve and it will take as long as it takes. There is no right or wrong way for this. Trust your instincts. Marion
Like snailbones I don't think you'll know until it's time. And maybe not even then - my father passed while I was out of the room and my brother and (now ex) sister in law both say that this was intentional on my father's part. He didn't want me there, because he knew how much it would upset me.
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Much love to all of you. ♥
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Just from my perspective - I missed saying a last goodbye to my Dad. I was driving there after getting the call & missed him by 5 minutes. It's a huge regret for me.
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It isn't anything to be scared of, that much I found, and something will always bite you in the bum after wards what ever you do.
And you will grieve and it will take as long as it takes. There is no right or wrong way for this. Trust your instincts.
Marion
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