They are hurting and slowly destroying you? But you love them but beginning to resent them. It's true there is a fine line between love and hate. It is just realising what emotion it is you feel.
How do you tell someone?
anonymous
November 11 2007, 21:58:04 UTC
Hi. Just found your journal. Your words are SO descriptive of the way I am feeling. My partner and I have been married for 21 years and have now reached the point where you seem to be at. What you say about loving them but also resenting them is just spot on. I've got further complications in that I am actually in love with someone else, who loves me equally. But they are also stuck in a destroying relationship. Not sure if we have it better as we have each other to turn to (albeit VERY secretly) or worse cos neither of us can leave the relationship we are in. Well, I suppose no-one ever said life was meant to be easy. You have my full emotional support though and I REALLY hope you manage to sort something out.
Re: How do you tell someone?
anonymous
November 26 2007, 12:29:47 UTC
I think sometimes you have to walk away before love turns to resentment to hate. The words are easy to say, the action far more difficult. I think people look at what they are going to lose rather than what they are going to gain.
Hi there Epona!
anonymous
November 26 2007, 10:51:39 UTC
mmm intimacy breeds contempt no I mean familiarity - but it can be like that suffacation. Sufferation...to what end? Attachment. R! Blessed Bhudda bring me realisation. bring us realisation! O magnificent diety! OM
I could get attached to you as a mother channel to union with the Creator alchemic trip type thing but if i was serious i woudn't have said that.
If you feel destroyed you should deal with the situation.
Re: Hi there Epona!
anonymous
November 26 2007, 10:56:01 UTC
I think if you are totally destroyed, it is hard to rebuild yourself. Maybe I am in the early stages of destruction and I need some scaffolding quick!!!
We have been together about 8 years now and i love her, I will do anything to make her happy, she has everything she asks for. The only issue is i don't get anything in return. Hehe.. I'm not talking about a 40" plasma screen or anything like that, just some support and nice hug every now and then would be nice.
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I cant have much advice, i love my wife so much. We the lucky ones i guess.
Please dont watch yourself being destroyed, at whatever speed. and dont throw away the mirror either.
Really.
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ps. Just a suggestion. How about: ' You are hurting and slowly destroying me.' It will sink in on some level.
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I could get attached to you as a mother channel to union with the Creator alchemic trip type thing but if i was serious i woudn't have said that.
If you feel destroyed you should deal with the situation.
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We have been together about 8 years now and i love her, I will do anything to make her happy, she has everything she asks for. The only issue is i don't get anything in return.
Hehe.. I'm not talking about a 40" plasma screen or anything like that, just some support and nice hug every now and then would be nice.
Oh well.. sorry if that turned into a rant.
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