Comments | erosewashu: Of Rapists and Womanizers , or, Of Rape and Sex 2, or, My Ex As a Rapist

erosewashu

Of Rapists and Womanizers , or, Of Rape and Sex 2, or, My Ex As a Rapist

Sep 18, 2005 03:11

There are moments when I know that I am not going to do the right thing. In this particular moment, I know that I will remain awake so that I can write this entry instead of catching some much-needed sleep. No, instead of sleeping I am going to make a case for L. as a rapist. Certainly I make this argument because it pleases me to deride him, ( Read more... )

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erosewashu September 20 2005, 22:32:11 UTC

Thanks : )

You forgot another possible scenario . . . anonymous November 14 2005, 04:08:41 UTC

4) A man sees a woman in his office. He would like to get her phone number. He would like to take her out on a date. He would like to get to know her. He feels affection for her, something that - in his mind's eye - might one day be love. At some point he would like to have sex with her, which to him is a loving act. He knows for certain that he will feel love for her afterwords, and considers the act an expression of that love. He hopes that it could be the beginning of something wonderful ( ... )

Re: You forgot another possible scenario . . . erosewashu November 14 2005, 04:29:23 UTC

Actually, scenario number 1 is exactly your scenario 4--that was not meant to be predatory, so if it reads that way, then it is a mistake on my part. I stand by my case about womanizers but I absolutely agree with you that the post reveals much about women in general and myself in particular. I do think that a man can be loving, but a great deal of the men in my life--romantic or otherwise--have not been that way.
I have started examining why women are attracted to and remain with abusive men. Obviously women stay for a variety of reasons
but one of them must be a reaffirmation of self-hood, meaning, 'if i can make him love me, then I am worthy, then I am desirable'. Of course, this is problematic because we should not use others to define our own self-worth. Curiously enough it is probably the feminine counterpart to the male putting his worth in his status/money/how many females he can attract.

If you don't mind me asking, do I know you? If you don't want me to know who you are, that's fine. I'm just curious.

Re: You forgot another possible scenario . . . erosewashu November 14 2005, 04:42:44 UTC

You know, I didn't really answer your question. My comment to 'why are non-abusive men invisible?' would be that most of the guys I know who are good boyfriends/husbands started out by simply wanting to get laid. In the course of hanging out/dating they realized that they could have something more with this person and so they decided to behave accordingly. Initially, however, what they wanted was to hit it. This has lead my roommate and I to say, 'even when they're good, they're bad'.

It's "Anonymous" again . . . anonymous November 14 2005, 23:07:35 UTC

Thanks for replying! Most people don't reply at all, and never that quickly ( ... )

Re: It's "Anonymous" again . . . erosewashu November 15 2005, 05:02:22 UTC

We're definitely still doing the show but my co-host had sorority stuff so we didn't do it Sunday night. We've renamed it 'Trifecta' because everything we talk about revolves around the big three--Race, Sex, and Religion. Thanks for listening ( ... )

Re: It's "Anonymous" again . . . erosewashu November 17 2005, 04:05:30 UTC

Name begins with a "Nathan", ends with a "Wallingford". Told ya it'd be a little weird.

Re: It's "Anonymous" again . . . erosewashu November 17 2005, 06:02:23 UTC

It's not that weird. I have heard from a lot of Center people since I got on Facebook. I'm glad I'm interesting enough for you to keep reading : ) .