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estherchaya

Parenting Fail

Jan 23, 2010 22:45

Why is it that we don't get "do overs" on at least one or two days in our lives? Monday was a do-over day, for sure. It's not just that none of the plans I had came to fruition. It was the complete and utter lack of control that I had over Monday's happenings ( Read more... )

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marag January 24 2010, 03:52:19 UTC

::wince:: Oh dear. Um...it'll be a hilarious story in about 20 years?

But as you know, it's not parenting fail, it's just, well, parenting. :(

estherchaya January 24 2010, 04:03:22 UTC

It sure felt like a parenting-fail at the time. Had I been able to just be right on top of them, much of it wouldn't have happened, but the parts I left out involved much puking on my part while they were up to their mischief. So it was, in part, failure on my part to be policing appropriately.

Every now and then I have one of these days where nothing works out right and the kids are holy terrors. They are nearly always the result of my failure to be on top of them. Still, at least these days are in the minority!

hannahsarah January 24 2010, 05:16:25 UTC

Oy vey.

*passes you a virtual Xanax*

estherchaya January 24 2010, 12:47:07 UTC

Unfortunately, much like the drinking, Xanax is out until this little monster is delivered.

sethcohen January 24 2010, 05:28:42 UTC

It was, unfortunately, one of the more memorable days of parenting. I really can't wait until I've forgotten all about it.

You won't forget it now. If it's on the internet, it's forever.

And, no, I can't sleep. Why do you ask?

estherchaya January 24 2010, 12:47:35 UTC

right, because I'm going to go back and read every bit of my archives in 20 years?

pocketnaomi January 24 2010, 06:52:44 UTC

Oh, poor sweetie. This is worse than I've ever had to deal with. Then again, I've only had one toddler at a time.

About the only remotely comforting things I can say about this is that it WAS NOT YOUR FAULT, everyone loses track like that, and you just got more fallout from it than most... and that it's blessedly over.

estherchaya January 24 2010, 14:55:22 UTC

I know it wasn't my "fault" per se - but much of it could have been avoided had I been healthy enough to always be in the room with them - or at least more than I was.

Still, it was one heck of a day!

mindycl January 24 2010, 14:43:51 UTC

WOW - this should be submitted to a sitcom. it's insanely crazy and funny at the same time. I'mso sorry about the broken items. My Mendy broke my gorgeous cobalt serving piece that I wont afford to replace myself. :( and wow, you managed amazingly - without help - wow.

estherchaya January 24 2010, 14:53:34 UTC

I mean, it *is* just "stuff" and I know that all that matters is that no one got hurt. But gosh. Of all the "stuff" in this house - those two were some of the few that I actually really care about. Sigh.

It *is* funny in a way - though it certainly wasn't at the time. It's hard to chase three toddlers with an IV pole as my constant companion. Hopefully today will go better (Seth's working today, but not until 3pm, so hopefully some of their mischief will be out of their systems...).

mindycl January 24 2010, 15:00:35 UTC

WOW. When I had my drain in for 5 weeks I had help all the time, i was NEVER alone with the 2 kids. I panicked if my chesed help left 10 minutes before my husband came home. (I could handle being home along with mendy but not with Mendy and SM). and that was five weeks and just a drain! how do you handle an IV and four kids on your own? and whyu the heck was your nanny off for mLK day???

estherchaya January 24 2010, 15:26:20 UTC

Truthfully, some of the time that I'm alone with them, I just don't use the IV fluids until after they're in bed - that day I hadn't been able to avoid it, b/c I was pretty dehydrated from throwing up so much. Even without the IV pole, however, I've always got my Zofran Pump and PICC line.

In the DC metropolitan area, the standard is to give MLK day off for nannies - we're a very government-centric society in greater Washington area - so most people have MLK day off, and that makes it a logical day to give nannies off. Seth works in a hospital, so of course he doesn't get MLK day off - but he's the exception around here.

Fortunately, for the most part, my kids are very well behaved and pretty responsive - this post documents the exception, not the norm. It's just that it's less fun to deal with without a spouse. :)

I also know that it *will* get easier with time - so that helps me keep it in perspective. Mostly.