You ARE harsh. Not that I want to lecture you since I have no right, but knowing how much pride you have, you don't let girls like her get away if they turned you on the wrong way...all I can say is chill, and learn to be more tactful lah...cheers bro =)
Hey guys, thank you for your feedback. Really appreciate it.
I had taken the liberties of editing alot of stuff along the way and it seem like I should have seen it coming.
But there were alot of other things that I left out in the entry that suggest she knew but did not say anything. I did not want to make this entry too draggy so I omitted alot of details.
She lead me on by not discouraging any advances. By not discouraging, you are encouraging it. We are guys, you don't expect the girls to chase us.
I was angry not because I was spurned. I was angry because she had the power to discourage but did not do so. I was disappointed with her actions than sad that I got rejected.
You guys know me well enough that even though I have pride, I always respect other people's decision.
Rejection is fine but a betrayal of trust is deeper.
Anyway, I shall not be pursuing the matter anymore. I did not manage to wish her all the best properly but i sincerely hope she is happy in whatever she does.
i prolly wont get to see the reply so you might have to let me know the next time we meet up! (and i sent the resume already! whee! seng siong here we come!)
anyways, i dont think it's harsh. i think:
1) if she's the quiet guai guai sort, perhaps she's dumb enough to not realise she should have maybe hint you and since quiet kind, wont tell you so much details such as she already has a bf etc.
2) but given her kind of reply, i think she simply wants to take advantage of the fact that since you drive and is nice to her and willing to give her the lift and help her with studies, she will just let you have your way and yah, simply take advantage. so of cos dont tell you she has a bf.
3) cos if she really didnt mean to take advantage, she would have probably at least say sorry if she still hopes to be friends but since she reacted this way, she probably dont care if you guys become friends still (especially since exams already ended, dont need your free lifts).
Well... she sure sounds like a real bitch. I feel for you, buddy.
I totally understand the reality you live in.
Women have all the power in the relationship. She is the more evolved species, so she should take the time to educate you. Absolutely. Perfectly reasonable.
As an Alpha male, its only right for you to take the trouble to pick a girl up, expect her to give you straight answers and reply to your SMSes pronto.
You weren't too harsh at all. You were absolutely spot on. She's indeed obnoxious and self-righteous.
Tell you what, call her and give her a sincere apology. Express your feelings for her and she will respect you for being forthright. You should do so as soon as possible.
Challenge? Yes an Alpha 'd steal her from the other guy in the blink of an eye.
But i dun recommend that sort of thinking - complicates your life.
And she never had any dilemma in the 1st place; you were never on her radar.
The girl's reality is this: If you offer anything (car rides) then I'm smart enough to take it.
Never offer them anything until they have displayed interest in you. Of course this is not an excuse to be rude, if the two of you are a leaving a place together, its raining heavily then ok its only polite to offer her a lift.
The same rule works in reverse for women too. If a fat ugly chick offers u free rides and she's after your affections... would you reject her offer?
You might. But many men won't.
You are right in saying an Alpha is what men should be. I agree on this one. So work on becoming one. And good luck. Alpha makes are in short supply these days and women are just dying to have them.
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I had taken the liberties of editing alot of stuff along the way and it seem like I should have seen it coming.
But there were alot of other things that I left out in the entry that suggest she knew but did not say anything. I did not want to make this entry too draggy so I omitted alot of details.
She lead me on by not discouraging any advances. By not discouraging, you are encouraging it. We are guys, you don't expect the girls to chase us.
I was angry not because I was spurned. I was angry because she had the power to discourage but did not do so. I was disappointed with her actions than sad that I got rejected.
You guys know me well enough that even though I have pride, I always respect other people's decision.
Rejection is fine but a betrayal of trust is deeper.
Anyway, I shall not be pursuing the matter anymore. I did not manage to wish her all the best properly but i sincerely hope she is happy in whatever she does.
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anyways, i dont think it's harsh. i think:
1) if she's the quiet guai guai sort, perhaps she's dumb enough to not realise she should have maybe hint you and since quiet kind, wont tell you so much details such as she already has a bf etc.
2) but given her kind of reply, i think she simply wants to take advantage of the fact that since you drive and is nice to her and willing to give her the lift and help her with studies, she will just let you have your way and yah, simply take advantage. so of cos dont tell you she has a bf.
3) cos if she really didnt mean to take advantage, she would have probably at least say sorry if she still hopes to be friends but since she reacted this way, she probably dont care if you guys become friends still (especially since exams already ended, dont need your free lifts).
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But well, let bygones be bygones.
And no worries, I believe that Suntec will give u call. Then we will wait for our seafood feast... haha...
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I totally understand the reality you live in.
Women have all the power in the relationship. She is the more evolved species, so she should take the time to educate you. Absolutely. Perfectly reasonable.
As an Alpha male, its only right for you to take the trouble to pick a girl up, expect her to give you straight answers and reply to your SMSes pronto.
You weren't too harsh at all. You were absolutely spot on. She's indeed obnoxious and self-righteous.
Tell you what, call her and give her a sincere apology. Express your feelings for her and she will respect you for being forthright. You should do so as soon as possible.
Don't wait, or she might think you chicken.
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I am done with the revealing the feelings part. She has a boyfriend in the first place and she will be happier without the dilemma.
P/S: I don't think alpha males would shirk off from a challenge like I do.
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Challenge? Yes an Alpha 'd steal her from the other guy in the blink of an eye.
But i dun recommend that sort of thinking - complicates your life.
And she never had any dilemma in the 1st place; you were never on her radar.
The girl's reality is this: If you offer anything (car rides) then I'm smart enough to take it.
Never offer them anything until they have displayed interest in you. Of course this is not an excuse to be rude, if the two of you are a leaving a place together, its raining heavily then ok its only polite to offer her a lift.
The same rule works in reverse for women too. If a fat ugly chick offers u free rides and she's after your affections... would you reject her offer?
You might. But many men won't.
You are right in saying an Alpha is what men should be. I agree on this one.
So work on becoming one. And good luck. Alpha makes are in short supply these days and women are just dying to have them.
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