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[evil_aarbear]

Why do girls have to be so complicated?

Why do they have to tell you they're interested in you, but not ready for a relationship?

Then tell you about other guys they're interested in and not knowing what to do?

I really don't like being strung along, I want some answers.

Comments

[isthisseattaken]

my advice is that even if a girl "isnt ready for a relationship", if she is that interested she isnt going to let you get away. you may be getting strung along, especially if she's a younger girl which i have no idea.

[evil_aarbear]

I ended up telling her how I felt about it last night, but she already knew and just wanted to hear it directly from me. Unfortunately she is younger, and afraid of losing what we have now.

How the heck do you convince a girl to take a risk that's worth it?

[isthisseattaken]

From my personal experience, saying i don't want to lose what we have now really means i like being friends and don't want anything more. Buuuut if you've been friends for a while and you know she's interested and honestly just afraid, i'd say just let her know you really aren't a douche, and make her feel comfortable about the decision.. no pressure. If she doesn't make it herself then she doesn't want to. I'm pretty positive you're a good guy, i hope she makes the right choice :)

[evil_aarbear]

I feel like she actually meant it when she said she was afraid of losing what we have, and I can understand why she would be, it happens to be rather nice.

Unfortunately I wish there was more I could do about it to help make up her mind but I know I can't. I think shes plagued with "what if" questions right now and all I can do about it is continuously reinforce the idea of us being together being a great thing.

[isthisseattaken]

also, keep in mind younger girls are starved for attention. i was, they all are before they're totally secure with who they are. But that's a whole different journal.. haha.

[evil_aarbear]

I think that's part of the problem actually. She only has two really close guy friends and I'm one of them. I actually feel like if she had MORE close guy friends she wouldn't be as afraid of it haha.