Can I just figure it out already please?
Inner family systems, from my limited understanding, is a model of psychology that can help you see the "parts" of yourself in a new light. What is the function of shame, if not to lead us toward empathy, suggests Brene Brown. How does fear and anxiety keep us safe? When has your grief created space for your love, your wisdom? And so on - asset- ( Read more... )
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I subscribe to a different model of psychology. I believe that we have two "brains". The first brain is the "monkey brain" that has kept us alive through our evolution for a million years, and the second is the "rational brain" that is always trying to analyze everything; analogous to Freud's id and ego. The two share a bidirectional connection. The regular, upward connection is when the "rational brain" gets signals from the "monkey brain" and tries to make sense of them, resulting in emotions. I'll talk about the downward connection a bit later.
My answer to the question "What is the function of shame" is simpler: our "monkey brain" knows that we cannot survive outside of a society - we'd die without our other monkeys - and shame is extreme fear of being cast out from the society. There are various degrees: there's the mild fear [embarrassment] when you've spilled something on your pants, and there's the debilitating fear [toxic shame] when you've committed a serious transgression against your society. This fear is as innate ( ... )
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