Because if I don't say this, I will EXPLODE.......

[ewbass]

Okay, so I am watching 'A Baby Story: where are they now?'  Which is where they revisit families of babies born on the show, several years later. The one today was about a girl who had an elective c-section with her first baby.  You would NOT believe the FLACK she has taken on their message board for that decision.  People are so ridiculous when it

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[jwilhunt]

To me, and maybe I am narrow minded or whatever, but I believe it is so much more important HOW you parent a child rather than the way you gave birth. You know my kids are not going to remember how I gave birth to them.

Amen sista! I totally agree. Where I am I see the end result of bad parenting and I can say that Kaleigh did not suffer any for being born via C-section. She got a Terrific Kid award today! (For the 2nd time I might add!!!)

[ewbass]

I KNEW you would agree with me!

[rbnhug]

i am with you. a mother is in NO WAY less of a parent because they have a c-section or have an epidural or have a home birth or hospital birth or whatever. like you said, it's what happens while they are IN your body and after they are OUT that proves your love. certainly not the way they get into this world! OF COURSE there are decisions that we make as parents when our kids are babies and children that will impact their lives forever, but i do NOT think that how they are born is one of them. AND (for the record) you know i am all for breastfeeding. it was the right choice for me with bailey, but jacob had as much formula as he did EBM and so did emily and i do NOT think i was less of a mama with them. i think that was just the right choice for me at the time. i feel in no way less bonded to them than to bailey and i don't think she's healthier or smarter because of nursing for longer. i ABSOLUTELY do cherish my nursing relationship with her and wouldn't want to give it up, but i don't think it makes me a better mother.

[sorceresscybele]

As a mom who has given birth vaginally to two children (and likely will to the one I'm carrying as well), I have to say...I would much rather be cut on my abdomen than on my hoo-ha again! I'd love to have a c-section with this one (though I doubt Dr. Askary would let me...heh). Is that wrong of me? I don't think so!

It doesn't matter how the baby is born...the important thing is that it IS born! It amazes me that people get attacked over stuff like this...sheesh sometimes more than someone who gets an abortion (oh, lord, don't get me started on that). Unbelievable.

As for breastfeeding, I'm all for it. But only if you want to (and can, of course). I tried to do it with Becca...it just didn't work out for me. I pumped milk for both Becca and Alex for a couple months, then they switched to formula full time. That was the right decision for me. It isn't the right decision for everyone.

This world isn't 'one size fits all'!

[rbnhug]

that is SO funny, kellie that you used the word hoo-ha!!! that's what i've been calling bailey's little girly parts. i have always said "tootie" in the past, but for some reason, when her diaper comes off and her hands go straight down i've been saying "girl, get outta that hoo-ha!" hahahaha!!!

[ewbass]

I don't think it is wrong at all that you feel that way. Mama had such a hard time with me and Jennifer that she said she would have travelled to the moon for the opportunity to have a c-section(49 hours in labor with jenn, 37 with me.)

And, I agree completely with everything you said!

[hopefullytrying]

I'm applauding here!!!!!!!!!!

[ewbass]

Thanks. I just think all of that ridicule is useless.

[hdn]

My first c-section was no elective. So what would they say about me? Should I have risked the life of my child and insist that he be delivered vaginally even though he was breech? Lets all remember that there was another baby to come out right after him, so it might have endangered him too. Am I somehow at fault for having twins and then for one of them to be breech and the other transverse? There wasn't a lot of room in there for them to move around a whole lot after all.

[jillianj]

I think if I had twins breech or not I would definately elect for the c-section. Why go through a vaginal birth with the first one with the chance the second one having to be born via c-section if he should turn. Then your hoo-ha and stomach are ripped open :)

[hdn]

I don't think most doctors will perform a c-section without some cause the first time, even with twins. Unless you want to pay for everything out of pocket. If Hunter had not been breech, I would have had to labor and try to push him out. The policy was that with twins, you labor in the OR in case they ahve to do a c-section with the second one. I've heard that some doctors will automatically give c-sections for twins, but that seems pretty rare.

[ewbass]

The whole thing really was because it WAS elective. My first was not elective either, but I could have chosen one the second time around, I just didn't want to go into that unknown. There probably wouldn't have been a lot said about you, since it really was medically necessary. Most of the stuff on the board was because that was her choice....and the fact she said 'pushing was too primative.' She was very young, though and said she felt like she had lost control of her own body and that she at least wanted to have control over that. I wonder what they would say about MY first c-section. There really was NO medical reason, except the fact I had been on Pitocin for four days and never contracted at all. My Dr said I had contracted pelvis at the time, but my OB with Carlie said I could try to have her. I was just more comfortable with what I already knew.