Growing up in 2008

[exquisiteoath]

So, this is a recurring theme in my journal, but it's raising it's head again

Comments

[tamago23]

I'm a hermit by nature, and online communication like LJ is my primary way for keeping in touch with people; I read my friend's journals regularly so I can respond to what's going on in their life, and post often enough that they're kept up-to-date in my life as well. The other thing that I did was establish a "phone call day" - twice a month when I will actually sit down with a list of names and call people on the phone. If I don't do that, then I forget to call, so this way I know I'll talk to the important people at least twice a month.

[exquisiteoath]

I think for the time being that the phone day idea is one I will wait to implement, perhaps in the future.

But I can definately see the value of better maintaining my/reading others' journals. Part of the frustration on that part is the fact that I can only do that from home as I don't have internet (mostly) at work, and don't have it during transit. So that doesn't leave a lot of time for LJ. But I will try to prioritize it.

[tamago23]

Weaning down your FL is a good start, if you have a large FL. You can just set up two filters; the Default View contains the most important people whose lives you want to keep up on, and then the other filter has everyone else (so if you have excess time on your hands, you can check the big filter). That way when you go see your FL, it's automatically narrowed down to only the people who it's important for you to read. My now, my Default View is only people I know in real life or people I've known for multiple years online, and I no longer add anyone new (unless I know them in real life). That makes it a lot more manageable and I have to spend less time keeping up-to-date.

[exquisiteoath]

Thank you for that suggestion... it's a really good one that I think I will try to implement shortly.

[exquisiteoath]

Well, no, I guess there's nothing "wrong" with being a loner, but I've worn that hat for a long time and I'm feeling that I need to change for myself.

I wil agree, part of what I enjoy about our friendship is that it's just there and I don't feel I need to work at it. But that being said there a number of people (you among them) who's company and conversation I enjoy enough that I'd like to be able to enjoy more of it.

[kaolinfire]

I've never been good at keeping in touch with folks. The best friends I have are the ones I know will be there without attention. Like gravitates towards like, at times. ;)

[exquisiteoath]

Yes indeed it does.

And I know exactly what you mean.

[jaborwhalky]

eggs

[exquisiteoath]

Eggs?