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Hi. I'm new.
Ah. i actually dont know what im doing in this community except for one thing.. i have a problem.. about two months ago my friends boyfriend was coming into town (hes in the army) and he was bringing two of his buddies from their post with him. She asked me if i wanted to come hang out with them, i said yes and i started talking to one of her boyfriends friends that came along on the trip... we all ended up going back to their hotel room and "getting to know eachother better" and when the long weekend was over we said our goodbyes and blah blah blah well me and him kept in touch and talked for hours and hours at a time during the day making my phone bill extremly large but thats besides the point.. Well, he asked me to send him pictures of him and i when he was here so i did and about 3 weeks later (while hes getting ready to send me info for the plane im suppost to be taking to go out and see him) i get this weird IM online asking me about him and how i knew him and who i was and i sat there for a second with out responding... and then I typed in "who is this" and the person said in response "how do you know _______" and i said "well, hes my boyfriend" and this person types in "WHAT. HES MY HUSBAND" and i couldnt even believe it. I was shocked and pissed off and so mad that i gave this girl my cell phone number so she could call me because i figured she was pissed off more than i was and once again making my phone bill even larger (lol) i was in a mess. After talking to his wife for hours i called my friend who introduced me to him and she claimed she had no idea that he was even married so she ended up three-waying her boyfriend and said he never even saw "my man" wearing a ring (and they had been in the army for longer than 2 years together) and that made me question her and if she was just some stalker ex girlfriend. But... i was wrong. She sent me everything i needed to know to believe that they were married and when i finally got a chance to talk to him he came clean saying he was in the middle of a divorce and basically picked me over her. GREAT. i said. like i wanted to be with him now... um no. But then after he called me more and more and i didnt answer i started to miss everything about him. So we started talking again and everything seemed ok. Till i ended up with 3 text messages one morning from this woman saying they were NOT in the middle of a divorce but because of me they were now and she asked if she could call me because she was so upset that he picked me over her and of course i felt bad because... im young and the ruining of their marriage was because of me... So i told him to go back to her and he got upset and said no and weeks went by and he was still calling, so i told him i couldnt be with him but that i really liked him and i still wanted to be his friend and he said he as long as we kept in touch and could still hang out when he was in town it would be fine with him and that was that. Every now and then we still talk but not like we use to. I miss him, but everything happens for a reason.
So whats your deff. of having an Affair? is making out and doing other things with a man whos married having an Affair? or is just having sex with a man who is married having an Affair?