Comments | eyeseelife: what a tangled web we all weave.......

sprinkleme77 in eyeseelife

what a tangled web we all weave.......

Aug 29, 2005 16:10

what is your advice on asking a married man to leave his wife for you? i mean, i cant bring myself to do it. but... he has already said he would.. but i told him no and to not think about that again. so he seems almost scared to say anything that could make me feel like he would. i honestly believe that he would do it if i gave him the impression i ( Read more... )

Comments 15

been there... harleygirlsd August 30 2005, 07:14:22 UTC

and to put it in a nutshell... if he leaves HER for YOU, it's just a matter of time before he leaves YOU for someone else.

Happened to me.

Re: been there... sprinkleme77 August 30 2005, 18:03:57 UTC

but the person actually got a divorce for you? did they have kids?
ive known this man 7 yrs. its not like we just fell into this.

Re: been there... harleygirlsd August 30 2005, 20:29:15 UTC

yes he did divorce. and yes they had kids. I spent five years in a quagmire of 'blended families', and then he left me for someone 12 years younger.

Obviously, your mileage may vary.

bigtomd August 30 2005, 17:58:43 UTC

How long have you known each other?

sprinkleme77 August 30 2005, 18:03:07 UTC

7 years. only started the affair about a month ago.

bigtomd August 30 2005, 18:31:57 UTC

If he's having a lot of problems with his present marriage, why is that? Was he not ready to get married? Is he ready for you?

sprinkleme77 August 30 2005, 18:41:37 UTC

i asked him why he got married and he stated "i dont know ( ... )

Thread 10

loved_by_kermit September 15 2005, 03:40:51 UTC

I'm going through a very similar thing. I'm torn about the situation too. He has a child and was married once before (no children from that marriage though). I struggle constantly with it.

I stumbeled apon this entery thought i would offer advice anonymous October 29 2005, 21:39:35 UTC

honestly, if he is cheating on his wife with you, is he worth it? think about it, lets say he leaves his wife and gets serouse wiht you. HE is going to CHEAT again. Of course there are exceptions to the rules, but thats 1 in a million. Besides from my own experience its a mess and you dont want to be a home wrecker. How would you feel of the tables are reversed. At the wery least he is a coward who cannot face his wife to tell her that things are not working out between them for fear of being alone. I am jsut trying ot save you some heartache, and honestly i think you know deep down the answer when you look past how the heart feels.