Well, as silly as it sounds, you cant really trust him. If he is going around his wife like that, then who is to say that he isnt lying to you either? Physically, there is no way to tell if they have had sex, unless she is a scratcher/sucker/biter/etc. then again, you have ot realize that married people do have sex, and he might do her just to be more convinving about not having an affair. He might also tell you that just so that he can get sex from you.
Are you opposed to him having sex with his wife? The answer to this is NO, but I have told him I want to know about when he does. I too am married, and do not have sex with my spouse based on the assumption that my lover has asked me not to, and expects me to stay faithful, because he swares he is. If anything I am so confused not sure if he lies, tells the truth, what to believe or not to believe, sometimes I wish I had someone to talk to just to try and hear myself or my gut out loud!
Well, on the one side, he might just tell you that he doesnt have sex with his wife to not make you feel bad--you dont have sex with your hubby, so he has show the same consideration--besides, he asked you not to. On the other hand, his relationship may have deteriorated so badly that he really isnt getting any from his wife--this is known to happen.
If you dont mind my asking, is this more of an emotional affair, or a physical thing? Just wondering--doesnt your hubby notice that you are withholding sex from him?
If you feel like talking, let me know. I'm a pretty good listener, and never judge:)
Do not trust him.harmlesserrorJune 24 2006, 14:40:12 UTC
I agree with smokescreen. You can't trust him to give you the truth. He is not giving his wife the truth... and since you have already told him you don't have sex with your husband (and he doesn't want you to), it only make sense that he'd lie to you. He may be telling the truth, but he is not trustworthy. And he's a guy, so chances are he is having sex with his wife at least some of the time
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I think the question has to rhetorical. its impossible for anyone that doesnt know the man in qustion to take an eduacted guess - as, lets be fair here, they are un-education aka they dont know them.
At all.
Its a question that only you can answer.
All that I would say is that each person is different.
Soe talk bollocks and say what you want to hear.
Others will speak the truth.
Down to you really. Either way - hope it pans out ok.
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Are you opposed to him having sex with his wife?
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If you dont mind my asking, is this more of an emotional affair, or a physical thing? Just wondering--doesnt your hubby notice that you are withholding sex from him?
If you feel like talking, let me know. I'm a pretty good listener, and never judge:)
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At all.
Its a question that only you can answer.
All that I would say is that each person is different.
Soe talk bollocks and say what you want to hear.
Others will speak the truth.
Down to you really. Either way - hope it pans out ok.
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