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[eyesfullofhope]

Things have been going really well for me the past month. I've been feeling like myself more than I have in a long, long time. My friend who had the miscarriage when I had mine has been trying to get pregnant again and she told me she was in the two week wait. (Those are the two weeks you have to wait after you ovulate and before your period to

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[mandaspeaks]

Honey. No -- the world is NOT trying to tell you something. You are an amazing mother, you are an amazing PERSON, and this WILL happen for you. I know it will. Sometimes life is just an asshole, but you can't let it get you down. I know how easy it is to start thinking it just isn't meant to be, but don't let the bad things in life win!

Thinking of you and wishing you all the very best, because you deserve it!

[eyesfullofhope]

Thank you so much. Hearing about having to wait was really, really REALLY hard but I've dealt with it as best as possible and I'm feeling better about the situation. There's nothing I can do about it, you know?

[firelily]

Well, if anything, I wouldn't say that the world was telling you NOT to do this. It's more like a test. What did you feel when you found out you had to wait four months to try again? If what you really felt was a big sense of disappointment, I think that should tell you that what you really want is to go forward with this. If you felt a kind of relief that you're being forced to wait, then maybe your mind is actually conflicted about what you really want and you should make sure you're confident in your decision before trying again

[eyesfullofhope]

Honestly, when I found out we had to wait I was devastated. After a few weeks I learned I was upset not so much because of the actual waiting but because yet again a choice was taken from me and I was completely out of control of the situation. Once I realized where the sadness and anger were coming from it was a lot easier to deal with them, if that makes sense. I'm just beyond tired of feeling like there is nothing in this situation I can control.

Unfortunately in order to have any sort of genetic testing or follow up work my OB/GYN (and most others) prefer to wait until there have been 3 miscarriages. They don't classify it as a recurrent condition until there are three. Two are just a horrible accident. In one way that gives me hope that maybe there won't be a third. In other way it's completely horrifying and unfair to think I might have to go through this again before we get any sort of answers.

Thank you for everything. :D

[firelily]

Once I realized where the sadness and anger were coming from it was a lot easier to deal with them, if that makes sense.

That does make sense. I'm glad that you were able to figure out just why you were feeling so horrible about the whole thing. A lot of people wouldn't be able to be quite as self-reflective as you are.

I know you're doing everything you can to keep yourself sane and to make sure you're making the right decision. And really, that's all you can do and you'll eventually be ready to move forward.

Unfortunately in order to have any sort of genetic testing or follow up work my OB/GYN (and most others) prefer to wait until there have been 3 miscarriages.

Wow, that's totally harsh. :( I'd like to look at it in the hopeful way. Maybe this was just some freak accident. That's the way I'd like to see it anyway. There's nothing so far that would say otherwise, so I think you can go on that assumption. It just sucks that they can't give you more answers yet. :(