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Obstacles in my life have been relatively few, thankfully. I have managed to overcome most of what has been thrown my way. Though, there is one obstacle in which I have never fully conquered; fear. Fear seems to be a constant obstacle in my life. It is the one thing that is holding me back from the things that I want. What is fear holding me back

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[jem0000000]

*hugs*

Can you write something down? "Hi my name is ___ and I'm shy"? It's not the best opening but at least you'll have communicated with him, even if you don't manage to say anything else.

I usually meet people online, because I have trouble talking to them in person.

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Something like that screams immaturity to me as well. I'm almost 30 years old now, so I feel as if this is something I should have managed to get over when I was in high school. I think that is also another part of the problem. I'm simply embarrassed.

I have managed to talk to him a couple of times. We usually say hi to each other, and ask each other how we are doing. Though, I can't maintain eye contact very long, so that is about as far as we get.

I don't have a problem talking to people normally. It is only those that I'm attracted to that I have this problem. I've met all of my boyfriends online, and but they didn't work out in the end.

Thanks for the suggestion though.

[jem0000000]

Well, that's a start. Maybe if you keep saying hi, eventually you'll manage more than a few sentences?

On eye contact -- this is one I have trouble with, too. I glance away and then glance back, nod or something to show I'm still listening, or sometimes tilt my head towards them without actual eye contact.

Mine is more general, but I know a lot of people who have trouble talking to those they're attracted to.

You're welcome.

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I managed to ask him how he was yesterday while I was at work. I think I caught him by surprise.

[gingergirlslove]

I don't 'spose the whole "naked thing" would work? Ya know...pretend he's naked, then he's got nothin' on you and all fear is gone?...LOL...JK....jk (unless you want to) ;>)...sorry, I'm being playful

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Finding the time to actually ask him those questions are kind of hard. I don't normally have breaks with him. I don't even know when he goes on breaks so I can ask him questions. Though, I can at least try. I just hope I don't end up standing there with my mouth wide open like I normally do.

[solstice_singer]

I don't do well in social situations. I have a hard time meeting people. I'm often told that I'm unapproachable, so a lot of what you wrote here rang true for me.

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I find being told that I'm unapproachable is kind of annoying. I just want to smack someone when they say it to me. :p

[myrna_bird]

Do you have a friend you could 'practice" role playing with?

Try smiling at yourself in the mirror, practicing eye contact.

He may be just as shy as you are...

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I never considered role playing with someone before.

[basric]

Practice is the only solution.

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Yeah, you are probably right there. I just don't have a lot of practice in this sort of thing.