Had a bad night with Neal, he seems to hit black moods when he feels totally insecure and seems to feel the need to test me by tricking me
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I can see this from both sides - I understand why Neal might feel a bit insecure, but unless he's willing to try and work past that and lean towards trusting you, more than not, especially when you're being open with him and honest, then he seriously has to rethink what he expects from your relationship.
I can also understand why you're getting infuriated and frustrated with him - you've laid your cards bare, and not just said the easy thing when you've been asked, and you've been as open about how you feel and what you've done as you can be just about. Now it's a question of how much longer you can keep going like that, and where you'd need to draw the line for your own sanity. you seem like you can both talk about stuff though, which is good, so maybe find the right time, and bring up how you feel and stuff, see what he thinks of it all?
I'd write more, but I have to go to work now. Boo hiss!
Thanks :o) you are a wonderfully sane person and very understanding. *hugs*
I can see his side only too well which is why I forgive him so easily, I'm sure I'd feel just as distrustful if the roles had been reversed. What I cant cope with is him raking up whats all ready been said and done each time he has a new doubt.
I'm not good at thinking of the right things to say at the right times, I tend to think after what I should of said which is very frustrating and also means I dont come across well during a discussion/argument. This is why he always gets the upper hand and I cant seem to express my feelings as I would wish, which in turn means he tends to misinterpret what I'm trying very badly to say. Its so much easier on paper!
I think I might try and put it all down on paper and let him read it.
On the plus side he did ring me this lunchtime and appologise for his behaviour and say he was sorry for upsetting me.
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I can also understand why you're getting infuriated and frustrated with him - you've laid your cards bare, and not just said the easy thing when you've been asked, and you've been as open about how you feel and what you've done as you can be just about. Now it's a question of how much longer you can keep going like that, and where you'd need to draw the line for your own sanity. you seem like you can both talk about stuff though, which is good, so maybe find the right time, and bring up how you feel and stuff, see what he thinks of it all?
I'd write more, but I have to go to work now. Boo hiss!
*hugs*
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I can see his side only too well which is why I forgive him so easily, I'm sure I'd feel just as distrustful if the roles had been reversed. What I cant cope with is him raking up whats all ready been said and done each time he has a new doubt.
I'm not good at thinking of the right things to say at the right times, I tend to think after what I should of said which is very frustrating and also means I dont come across well during a discussion/argument. This is why he always gets the upper hand and I cant seem to express my feelings as I would wish, which in turn means he tends to misinterpret what I'm trying very badly to say. Its so much easier on paper!
I think I might try and put it all down on paper and let him read it.
On the plus side he did ring me this lunchtime and appologise for his behaviour and say he was sorry for upsetting me.
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