Tou-chan

[faerie_angst]

One week ago yesterday my father-in-law passed away.  After 15 years of battling cancer he had no energy left to keep fighting.  I just pray that this next journey of his soul is a peaceful one.  There are so many things I wish I could have learned from him, but I guess that would have been true no matter how much time we had.  I'm so grateful that

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[mrsiesta]

<3 take care you guys

[silentpindrop]

i just watched my step-dad go through that. if you would call it mercy, he lasted six months. i cant imagine someone dealing with it for years. tell aki i am truly sorry. i wouldn't wish that pain on anyone. i still have not cried, but you know me. i'm not normal and i don't deal with any type of pain like a normal person. just give him lots of hugs.

[faerie_angst]

I've been doing lots of hugging, and I'm really happy that he's been able to cry and talk about his dad a bit. I really wish I could give you some hugs and back scratches, too.

It's funny how inadequate it feels to say the words "I'm sorry" in this kind of situation, but after this experience I feel that it does help a little bit to hear a bit of sympathy. I really wish I could do more for you than tell you how sorry I am about your step-dad, I could hear your love for him in your voice every time I heard you talk about him. Even if you can't cry, I hope you can find some way to express your grief. For what it's worth, I'm here if you ever need to talk.

[magdellena]

*hugs tight* Our deepest sympathies and condolences to Aki and his family. We love you so much my gorgeous friend, you are both in our hearts and minds at all times. Miss you sweet baby, wish I could be there to comfort, annoy and distract you.

[faerie_angst]

*hugs back* We're mostly ok, actually. We've basically been cocooned in a little us-bubble, and are slowly edging our way back into normal daily routines. We've been eating way healthy, and exercising a bit, which actually seems to be helping a lot.

I've been wanting to give you a call, I just can't seem to think about it at the right times. Heh, I still need to call my mother, too. Ah well, you know how I am. Hopefully we'll have a chance to chat sometime in the next week or two.

I love you so much, and I miss you like crazy. I can't wait to hear your voice again.

[plastickitty]

I`m so sorry Nora. He was a really nice man and said some lovely things about you at the wedding. I hope Aki and his mom are ok. You guys can get through this. It will just take a little time.

All my love...

[faerie_angst]

Thanks, it still feels a bit surreal, but we're doing ok. We've kind of incorporated his dad into our daily life with a small makeshift shrine at home. We give him snacks and drinks, and burn incense for him every day. Mostly I'm just worried about Aki's mom.

[chelle_liz]

It is really difficult at times to know what to say to someone we love so much who has lost a parent.
I honestly STILL just don't know what to say to my beloved at times when the subject of his parents comes up.
I knew only part of the people they were and so have odd feelings about chimming in when he talks about them.
Having lost both of his parents in a short 2 years is just not something anyone can easily comment on.

*hugs* You will be in my thoughts. It's not easy watching something like this happen to our loves. We are there with them.... and yet not.