Women IN Love

[faerie_spark]

I am a woman in love
And I do anything
To get you into my world
And hold you within
Its a right I defend
Over and over again
What do I do?
Barbara Streissand: Woman In LoveRight now I am thinking of two couples

Comments

[solstice_singer]

Over the years, we've taken steps toward equality. However, they were only steps. Sadly, the world has a long way to go before true equality is recognized. Sometimes, I wonder if we'll ever reach that point.

When I was handfasted in the spring of 2005, I knew Texas would not recognize it as anything legal. I called her my wife, but, legally, she wasn't. We didn't receive benefits the way heterosexual couples do. We masqueraded as roommates for fear of the violence that might befall us if people realized our relationship ran deeper.

When New York voted to recognize same sex marriage as legal, I was overjoyed. I never thought I'd live in a state that would allow such a thing. For that one evening, I felt just a little bit closer to equal.

[faerie_spark]

I think it's hard for people to understand, even those who do support marriage equality, just what it is like to be an adult who doesn't have the same rights and options as other adults. Knowing you as I do, and reading this little glimpse into what life was like for you and your wife, I get a strong sense of isolation, not only for the fear of violence and the absence of legal protections and opportunities but the simple itneractions with friends and family members that legally married, socially accepted, people take for granted.

Thank you for sharing, and for reading. *smile*

[basric]

Equality wouldn't that be wonderful. Will we see it in our lifetime, I hope so but knowing humanity I seriously doubt it.
Everyone deserves the right to be with the one they love, but Bible thumping (sneak around and "sin") politicians will fight it to the very end. Look at Newt who wants to be president. He stormed and ranted against the holy sin of homosexuality as it was a disease to be cured--then backed off when the press released the fact his sister was a lesbian.

very well written entry.

[faerie_spark]

I can only imagine how Newt's sister felt hearing her brother spout such untruth in public. *sigh*

I love your characterization of politicians.

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Thank you for reading and leaving such a thoughtful comment. I'm thrilled that this piece has sparked so much thought and response.

[mac_arthur_park]

As a bisexual woman who happened to fall in love with a man, this really hit home for me, too. Thank you for expressing your anger so eloquently.

[faerie_spark]

I'm glad to hear this resonated with you, and thank you for sharing that it does. I sometimes feel sort of adrift as a woman who doesn't take her straight-looking life for granted. Sometimes I want to tell people that what they see isn't the whole story, just to show that diversity comes in many forms.

I do have a deep frustration and anger with heterosexist assumptions, which, while there is more than plenty homophobia at play, are, I believe, at the core of marriage inequality.

[alien_infinity]

You expressed your outrage very well.

I burn with anger that my love is recognized and theirs is not. I roil with frustration that because I, as a woman, happened to fall in love with a man, have protections and privileges that others, just as much committed and in love as I am, do not have.

Things like that are just SO unfair and wrong. :(

[faerie_spark]

I'm glad that bit resonated with you.

And yes, there is so much wrong in the response to marriage equality.

Thank you for reading. :)

[faerie_spark]

Oh, it's hard for me to be composed and cogent when I talk about these things. The written word hides the fuming and the frustrated tears that often threaten.

Thank you for reading. :)