Comments | faerykitty: survey of sorts

faerykitty

survey of sorts

Aug 04, 2006 16:42

I am a woman in a heterosexual relationship. Raise your hand if you think I would be a good mother.
I am a woman in a homosexual relationship. Raise your hand if you think I would be a good mother.

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ZOT! eric_the_redd August 4 2006, 22:26:06 UTC

I love your icon!

Re: ZOT! faerykitty August 4 2006, 22:49:39 UTC

haha.. thanks

Re: ZOT! eric_the_redd August 6 2006, 09:49:50 UTC

The argument about "children needing a father" is bull, and you shouldn't let it bog you down. My father worked afternoons for the first 11 years of my life, then he left- My mother was the only parent I ever had- and she was amazing. If children need "a normal family," I guess we should start removing them from single parent homes and placing all kids in "conventional" households. Which should go smoothly, since the adoption system is flawless and efficient....

One good parent is all it takes to create a good life for a child. Throw in a second good parent (regardless of the sex/gender), and the child is doubly blessed- even if extended family members don't see it that way. Based on everything I've seen thus far, you're an amazing person to know. You're understanding, empathetic and caring. If you aren't fit to raise a child, then no one is.

I think you would be a fantastic mother.

katkin134 August 5 2006, 01:38:10 UTC

isn't sexuality sort of irrelivant? doesn't being a good mother reflect the way you parent your child? I sort of suspect that's the point you're getting at...

faerykitty August 5 2006, 12:37:42 UTC

yes.. thank you for proving my point... my father and mother have both told me they think its wrong for me to have children, and yesterday my grandmother simply assumed that since i was in a relationship with a woman i would not be having children, and when i informed her in no uncertain terms that i would be, she informed me it was wrong to have children without a father.
mind you, i have been told my whole life i will make a good mother, and it makes no sense to me that its wrong to raise a child in anything other than a nuclear heterosexual family, regardless of whether the child is loved, safe, nurtured, provided for, and raised to be a decent, productive member of whatever society they choose to be a part of. And my feeling is that if my family chooses not to recognize my children as being a part of their family, then that is their perogative and they are welcome to the misery of it.

madmarchie August 5 2006, 04:17:41 UTC

I think you'd make a fine mother...

faerykitty August 5 2006, 12:38:09 UTC

thank you

m4ry73 August 5 2006, 17:31:01 UTC

I raise my hand for you, regardless of who you're in a relationship with. I think you would be a fabulous mother.

beefyt August 9 2006, 04:50:52 UTC

Generally, I agree that the question of whether or not you'd be a good mother is irrelevent of your sexual identity. Of course you'd be a good mother, does your family question that? It seems more like they doubt that a child can be raised adequately without a father. I'd say this is also irrelevent, except that their acceptence of your family is contingent on this point, and father or no, I think a child does benefit from an extended family ( ... )