Comments | faintingfancy: Is he a dirty old man or am I a prudish tween?

faintingfancy

Is he a dirty old man or am I a prudish tween?

Apr 28, 2007 20:59

I'd really like people's opinion on this because I don't know what to think anymore ( Read more... )

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cantabile April 28 2007, 21:51:25 UTC

I don't think you are wrong. If it were me in your position then I'd be exactly the same. I think having had the contact that you have and having dealt with it the way you have, and having the response you did, if it were me (this sentence seems awfully long-winded, I hope it makes sense) then I would leave it now. Draw a line under it, ignore emails, and not respond to anything. You're not comfortable, and despite that being clear through your response this man hasn't paid any attention, but instead tried to make you feel bad and awkward for feeling uncomfortable by unloading the problem onto you.

Good luck. You don't need to deal with people like this if you don't want to. I hope you feel better about it all soon.

faintingfancy April 29 2007, 20:07:49 UTC

Thanks. I've decided I'm just going to ignore him. I'm hoping he'll get the message. And if he were to keep bothering me, I'll threaten to print out all the mails he sent me and report him.

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faintingfancy April 29 2007, 20:15:23 UTC

That's not a bad idea, actually. You're in the marine corps, right? You must know how to throw a few good punches. :-)

By the way, I finally added you as a friend. About time, that is.

scifichick774 April 29 2007, 01:12:12 UTC

I don't think you overreacted at all. That's exactly how I would have reacted - only I would have done it sooner. What a perv.

faintingfancy April 29 2007, 20:28:56 UTC

In situations like this I usually like to give people the benefit of the doubt and believe there's a communication problem, they don't know their boundaries or completely realize how others perceive their actions. And there's always the risk that you put someone in his/her place when they honestly didn't mean anything bad. So usually I try to keep quiet and sort of 'maneuver' around the situation as long as possible. However, I believe that in this case the time has come to cut him loose.

thefrontrowgirl April 29 2007, 03:04:13 UTC

So not wrong. (You, that is.)

faintingfancy April 29 2007, 20:29:50 UTC

Thanks. I was truly starting to doubt myself.

bakaness April 29 2007, 03:39:50 UTC

I'm going with "he's a dirty old man" - he's using pressuring and grooming tactics usually symptomatic of paedophiles - including being a nice guy when he's not making you uncomfortable ( ... )

faintingfancy April 29 2007, 20:39:32 UTC

Thanks for the input. You're right, following your instincts is important. And I must say, systems have gone into 'red alert' a few times.

I actually discussed this with my dad today and he took it very seriously, because he has known people like that in the past. He told me to make sure that I save all of the mails in case we'd have to report the guy.

I'm going to ignore him and hope he'll get the hint.