Ugh, please don't be one of those people who feel they need to rush into marriage. Those are the people who get divorced.
They feel they HAVE to get married RIGHT NOW, so they fool themselves into believing that the person they're with at that moment is "THE ONE!!!!", then later, realize they're young and don't know what they're doing and either suffer through a bad marriage or suffer through a rough divorce. Then they go on with life with regret and have a hard time ever trusting their own feelings again.
Not saying marriage is bad, or that all young couples divorce. And the fact that you want a happy marriage is a good thing.
Just saying... you're young now, and even 22 is still really young. Many people don't find "the one" until they're like, 30, and they still go on to live happy, fulfilling lives for decades upon decades. So, there's no reason or need to put a time constraint on such a big commitment.
It's something you have to let happen, not make and force to happen.
I completely agree with you 'Shoink.' I know a few couples that have rushed into marriage and are now feeling that it was too soon and too hard. They are feeling lonely and alienated from other people even though they are married. It is good to know what you want, but just don't get so set on an idea that it blinds you or disables your ability to hear God's plans for you. I agree that we should not put time constraints on these types of things.
i think Ashley, that what you are saying is that you would like for things to turn out that way. not that if you are single the week before you turn 22 that you'll go find some random guy to marry. i understand your outlook and your desires for what you want to happen.
there is no need to rush, but if you do feel like what you truly want is in order for you at an "early" age then i say follow your heart.
You're life plans are so cute :) With the little ranch and everything. Can I be the best man? err..woman? However that works out? I'm to the point in my life where I would like to get married, but I'm sure if it happened I would be sort of devastated afterwards, and I'm sure I'd think I'd made a mistake. I guess I just like thinking about wearing an important ring and a pretty dress and all that and be a cute little bride, but that's not what it's about so I'm definately going to wait and see what happens with that. I have a whole life ahead of me, as you do, and that means plenty more experiences and adventures. But yeah, definately follow your heart and listen to what God has to say and you can't go wrong.
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They feel they HAVE to get married RIGHT NOW, so they fool themselves into believing that the person they're with at that moment is "THE ONE!!!!", then later, realize they're young and don't know what they're doing and either suffer through a bad marriage or suffer through a rough divorce. Then they go on with life with regret and have a hard time ever trusting their own feelings again.
Not saying marriage is bad, or that all young couples divorce. And the fact that you want a happy marriage is a good thing.
Just saying... you're young now, and even 22 is still really young. Many people don't find "the one" until they're like, 30, and they still go on to live happy, fulfilling lives for decades upon decades. So, there's no reason or need to put a time constraint on such a big commitment.
It's something you have to let happen, not make and force to happen.
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there is no need to rush, but if you do feel like what you truly want is in order for you at an "early" age then i say follow your heart.
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