Reasons People Have Sex

Aug 22, 2009 21:55

Reasons People Have Sex

These come from a University of Texas study published in August 2007. Four hundred students and volunteers were asked why they have sex. These were their answers.

There's just one little problem. The original list had 237 reasons, with 41 of them being repeats, some word for word. Things like, "I wanted to feel better about myself," and then further down the list, "I wanted to improve my self-esteem." Those mean the same thing. So, I trimmed the repeats off the list and made a table of 200 prompts. (183 is a replacement made up by me; I accidentally let a repeat slip through and didn't want to mess up my numbering system. Oops.) Some of the ones left are close to each other in meaning, but that's all a matter of interpretation, so I left them in.

If you claim this table as is, your stories should be about love, sex, and romance. Any rating is okay, though, meaning that if you'd rather not write full sex scenes, you can "fade to black" or whatever. It's also okay to write about interrupted or attempted sex, petting, and other sex and romance-related types of scenes, as long as they fit the prompts. An example could be using a prompt as a reason for a character to kiss someone; characters do not necessarily have to go all the way.

1.I was "in the heat of the moment."
2.It just happened.
3.I was bored.
4.It just seemed like "the thing to do."
5.Someone dared me.

6.I desired emotional closeness (intimacy).
7.I wanted to feel closer to God.
8.I wanted to gain acceptance from my friends.
9.It's exciting, adventurous.
10.I wanted to make up after a fight.

11.I wanted to get rid of aggression.
12.I was under the influence of drugs.
13.I wanted to have something to tell my friends.
14.I wanted to express my love for the person.
15.I wanted to experience the physical pleasure/it feels good.

16.I wanted to show my affection to the person.
17.I felt like I owed it to the person.
18.I was attracted to the person.
19.I was sexually aroused and wanted the release.
20.My friends were having sex and I wanted to fit in.

21.My partner kept insisting.
22.The person was famous and I wanted to be able to say I had sex with him/her.
23.I was physically forced to.
24.I was verbally coerced into it.
25.I wanted the person to love me.

26.I wanted to have a child.
27.I wanted to make someone else jealous.
28.I wanted to have more sex than my friends.
29.I was married and you're supposed to.
30.I was tired of being a virgin.

31.I was "horny."
32.I wanted to feel loved.
33.I was feeling lonely.
34.Everyone else was having sex.
35.I wanted the attention.

36.It was easier to "go all the way" than to stop.
37.I wanted to ensure the relationship was committed.
38.I was competing with someone else to "get" the person.
39.I wanted to "gain control" of the person.
40.I was curious about what the person was like in bed.

41.I was curious about sex.
42.I wanted to feel attractive.
43.I wanted to please my partner.
44.I wanted to display submission/be submissive.
45.I wanted to release anxiety/stress/tension.

46.I didn't know how to say no.
47.I felt like it was my duty.
48.I wanted to end the relationship.
49.My friends pressured me into it.
50.I wanted the experience.

51.I felt obligated to.
52.It's fun.
53.I wanted to get even with someone.
54.I wanted to be popular.
55.It would get me gifts.

56.I wanted to act out a fantasy.
57.I hadn't had sex in a while.
58.The person was "available."
59.I didn't want to lose the person.
60.I thought it would help "trap" a new partner.

61.I felt sorry for the person.
62.I wanted to feel powerful.
63.I wanted to "possess" the person.
64.I wanted to feel good about myself.
65.I was "slumming."

66.I felt rebellious.
67.I wanted to intensify my relationship.
68.It seemed like the natural next step.
69.I wanted to be nice.
70.I wanted to feel connected to the person.

71.I wanted to feel young.
72.I wanted to manipulate him/her into doing something for me.
73.I wanted him/her to stop bugging me about sex.
74.I wanted to hurt/humiliate the person.
75.I wanted the person to feel good about themselves.

76.I didn't want to disappoint the person.
77.I was trying to get over an earlier person/relationship.
78.I wanted to reaffirm my sexual orientation.
79.I wanted to try out new sexual techniques or positions.
80.I felt guilty.

81.My hormones were out of control.
82.It was the only way my partner would spend time with me.
83.It became a habit.
84.I wanted to keep my partner happy.
85.I had no self-control.

86.I wanted to communicate at a deeper level.
87.I was afraid my partner would have an affair if I didn't have sex with him/her.
88.I was curious about my sexual abilities.
89.I wanted a "spiritual" experience.
90.It was just part of the relationship routine.

91.I wanted to lose my inhibitions.
92.I got carried away.
93.I needed another "notch on my belt."
94.The person demanded that I have sex with him/her.
95.The opportunity presented itself.

96.I wanted to see what it would be like to have sex while "stoned."
97.It's considered taboo by society.
98.I wanted to increase the number of sex partners I had experienced.
99.The person was too sexy/attractive to resist.
100.I thought it would make me feel healthy.

101.I wanted to experiment with new experiences.
102.I wanted to see what it would be like to have sex with another person.
103.I thought it would help me to fall asleep.
104.It would allow me to "get sex out of my system" so that I could focus on other things.
105.It would damage my reputation if I said no.

106.I wanted to celebrate something.
107.I was seduced.
108.I was mad at my partner, so I had sex with someone else.
109.I wanted to fulfill a previous promise to my partner.
110.It was expected of me.

111.I wanted to dominate the other person.
112.I wanted to make a conquest.
113.I'm addicted to sex.
114.It was a favor to someone.
115.I wanted to be used or degraded.

116.Someone offered me money to do it.
117.I was drunk.
118.It seemed like good exercise.
119.I was pressured into doing it.
120.The person offered to give me drugs for doing it.

121.I was frustrated and needed relief.
122.It was a romantic setting.
123.My regular partner is boring, so I had sex with someone else.
124.I was on the rebound from another relationship.
125.Because of a bet.

126.I wanted to get a special favor from someone.
127.I wanted to get back at my partner for cheating on me.
128.I wanted to enhance my reputation.
129.I wanted to keep warm.
130.I wanted to punish myself.

131.I wanted to break up a rival's relationship by having sex with his/her partner.
132.I wanted to stop my partner's nagging.
133.I wanted to achieve an orgasm.
134.I wanted to improve my sexual skills.
135.I wanted to get a job/raise/promotion.

136.I wanted to satisfy a compulsion.
137.I wanted to change the topic of conversation.
138.I wanted to get out of doing something.
139.I wanted to test my compatibility with a new partner.
140.I wanted to get a partner to express love.

141.I wanted to put the passion back into my relationship.
142.I wanted to prevent a breakup.
143.I wanted to become one with another person.
144.I wanted to give someone else a sexually transmitted disease.
145.I wanted to break up someone else's relationship.

146.I wanted to avoid hurting someone's feelings.
147.I wanted to get rid of a headache.
148.I was afraid to say no due to the possibility of physical harm.
149.I wanted to hurt an enemy.
150.I wanted to feel older.

151.It was an initiation rite to a club or organization.
152.I wanted to say "I missed you."
153.I wanted to celebrate a birthday or anniversary or special occasion.
154.I wanted to say "I'm sorry."
155.I wanted to say "Thank you."

156.I wanted to welcome someone home.
157.I wanted to say "Goodbye."
158.I wanted to defy my parents.
159.I wanted to relieve menstrual cramps.
160.I wanted to relieve "blue balls."

161.I wanted to get the most out of life.
162.I wanted to feel feminine.
163.I wanted to feel masculine.
164.I wanted to see what all the fuss is about.
165.I thought it would boost my social status.

166.The person had a lot of money.
167.The person was a good dancer.
168.I heard this person was good in bed.
169.The person had beautiful eyes.
170.The person made me feel sexy.

171.An erotic movie had turned me on.
172.The person had taken me out for an expensive dinner.
173.The person was a good kisser.
174.The person had bought me jewelry.
175.The person had a great sense of humor.

176.The person seemed self-confident.
177.The person really desired me.
178.The person was really desired by others.
179.I wanted to gain access to that person's friend.
180.I felt jealous.

181.The person flattered me.
182.I wanted to see if I could get the other person into bed.
183.We were breaking up and I wanted to let them down easy.
184.The person smelled nice.
185.I saw the person naked and could not resist.

186.I was turned on by the sexual conversation.
187.The person was intelligent.
188.The person caressed me.
189.The person wore revealing clothes.
190.The person had too much to drink and I was able to take advantage of them.

191.I knew the person was usually "out of my league."
192.The person was mysterious.
193.I realized I was in love.
194.I wanted to forget about my problems.
195.I wanted to help my partner forget about their problems/I wanted to lift my partner's spirits.

196.I wanted to make my partner feel powerful.
197.I wanted to see whether sex with a different partner would feel different or better.
198.Writer's Choice
199.Writer's Choice
200.Writer's Choice

You may replace up to 8 of these prompts with the following:

We were dirty dancing and it turned me on.
I was blackmailed into doing it.
To seal a deal.
To keep from getting in trouble/getting arrested/getting a ticket.
I was experimenting with my sexual orientation.
I was trying to get a better grade/pass a class.
I wanted to show off my sexual skills.
I was giving someone "sex lessons."

You may use these as Buffet prompts as well. When taken out of the context of a sex table, some of the prompts can be twisted to mean totally new things and inspire completely different types of stories. Or, make yourself a Buffet mini-table of reasons people have sex.
Your stories do not have to be written in first person just because the prompts are.

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1.I was "in the heat of the moment."2.It just happened.3.I was bored.4.It just seemed like "the thing to do."5.Someone dared me.
6.I desired emotional closeness (intimacy).7.I wanted to feel closer to God.8.I wanted to gain acceptance from my friends.9.It's exciting, adventurous.10.I wanted to make up after a fight.
11.I wanted to get rid of aggression.12.I was under the influence of drugs.13.I wanted to have something to tell my friends.14.I wanted to express my love for the person.15.I wanted to experience the physical pleasure/it feels good.
16.I wanted to show my affection to the person.17.I felt like I owed it to the person.18.I was attracted to the person.19.I was sexually aroused and wanted the release.20.My friends were having sex and I wanted to fit in.
21.My partner kept insisting.22.The person was famous and I wanted to be able to say I had sex with him/her.23.I was physically forced to.24.I was verbally coerced into it.25.I wanted the person to love me.
26.I wanted to have a child.27.I wanted to make someone else jealous.28.I wanted to have more sex than my friends.29.I was married and you're supposed to.30.I was tired of being a virgin.
31.I was "horny."32.I wanted to feel loved.33.I was feeling lonely.34.Everyone else was having sex.35.I wanted the attention.
36.It was easier to "go all the way" than to stop.37.I wanted to ensure that the relationship was committed.38.I was competing with someone else to "get" the person.39.I wanted to "gain control" of the person.40.I was curious about what the person was like in bed.
41.I was curious about sex.42.I wanted to feel attractive.43.I wanted to please my partner.44.I wanted to display submission/be submissive.45.I wanted to release anxiety/stress/tension.
46.I didn't know how to say no.47.I felt like it was my duty.48.I wanted to end the relationship.49.My friends pressured me into it.50.I wanted the experience.
51.I felt obligated to.52.It's fun.53.I wanted to get even with someone.54.I wanted to be popular.55.It would get me gifts.
56.I wanted to act out a fantasy.57.I hadn't had sex for a while.58.The person was "available."59.I didn't want to lose the person.60.I thought it would help "trap" a new partner.
61.I felt sorry for the person.62.I wanted to feel powerful.63.I wanted to "possess" the person.64.I wanted to feel good about myself.65.I was "slumming."
66.I felt rebellious.67.I wanted to intensify my relationship.68.It seemed like the natural next step.69.I wanted to be nice.70.I wanted to feel connected to the person.
71.I wanted to feel young.72.I wanted to manipulate him/her into doing something for me.73.I wanted him/her to stop bugging me about sex.74.I wanted to hurt/humiliate the person.75.I wanted the person to feel good about themselves.
76.I didn't want to disappoint the person.77.I was trying to get over an earlier person/relationship.78.I wanted to reaffirm my sexual orientation.79.I wanted to try out new sexual techniques or positions.80.I felt guilty.
81.My hormones were out of control.82.It was the only way my partner would spend time with me.83.It became a habit.84.I wanted to keep my partner happy.85.I had no self-control.
86.I wanted to communicate at a deeper level.87.I was afraid my partner would have an affair if I didn't have sex with him/her.88.I was curious about my sexual abilities.89.I wanted a "spiritual" experience.90.It was just part of the relationship routine.
91.I wanted to lose my inhibitions.92.I got carried away.93.I needed another "notch on my belt."94.The person demanded that I have sex with him/her.95.The opportunity presented itself.
96.I wanted to see what it would be like to have sex while "stoned."97.It's considered taboo by society.98.I wanted to increase the number of sex partners I had experienced.99.The person was too sexy/attractive to resist.100.I thought it would make me feel healthy.
101.I wanted to experiment with new experiences.102.I wanted to see what it would be like to have sex with another person.103.I thought it would help me to fall asleep.104.It would allow me to "get sex out of my system" so that I could focus on other things.105.It would damage my reputation if I said no.
106.I wanted to celebrate something.107.I was seduced.108.I was mad at my partner, so I had sex with someone else.109.I wanted to fulfill a previous promise to my partner.110.It was expected of me.
111.I wanted to dominate the other person.112.I wanted to make a conquest.113.I'm addicted to sex.114.It was a favor to someone.115.I wanted to be used or degraded.
116.Someone offered me money to do it.117.I was drunk.118.It seemed like good exercise.119.I was pressured into doing it.120.The person offered to give me drugs for doing it.
121.I was frustrated and needed relief.122.It was a romantic setting.123.My regular partner is boring, so I had sex with someone else.124.I was on the rebound from another relationship.125.Because of a bet.
126.I wanted to get a special favor from someone.127.I wanted to get back at my partner for cheating on me.128.I wanted to enhance my reputation.129.I wanted to keep warm.130.I wanted to punish myself.
131.I wanted to break up a rival's relationship by having sex with his/her partner.132.I wanted to stop my partner's nagging.133.I wanted to achieve an orgasm.134.I wanted to improve my sexual skills.135.I wanted to get a job/raise/promotion.
136.I wanted to satisfy a compulsion.137.I wanted to change the topic of conversation.138.I wanted to get out of doing something.139.I wanted to test my compatibility with a new partner.140.I wanted to get a partner to express love.
141.I wanted to put the passion back into my relationship.142.I wanted to prevent a breakup.143.I wanted to become one with another person.144.I wanted to give someone else a sexually transmitted disease.145.I wanted to break up someone else's relationship.
146.I wanted to avoid hurting someone's feelings.147.I wanted to get rid of a headache.148.I was afraid to say no due to the possibility of physical harm.149.I wanted to hurt an enemy.150.I wanted to feel older.
151.It was an initiation rite to a club or organization.152.I wanted to say "I missed you."153.I wanted to celebrate a birthday or anniversary or special occasion.154.I wanted to say "I'm sorry."155.I wanted to say "Thank you."
156.I wanted to welcome someone home.157.I wanted to say "Goodbye."158.I wanted to defy my parents.159.I wanted to relieve menstrual cramps.160.I wanted to relieve "blue balls."
161.I wanted to get the most out of life.162.I wanted to feel feminine.163.I wanted to feel masculine.164.I wanted to see what all the fuss is about.165.I thought it would boost my social status.
166.The person had a lot of money.167.The person was a good dancer.168.I heard this person was good in bed.169.The person had beautiful eyes.170.The person made me feel sexy.
171.An erotic movie had turned me on.172.The person had taken me out for an expensive dinner.173.The person was a good kisser.174.The person had bought me jewelry.175.The person had a great sense of humor.
176.The person seemed self-confident.177.The person really desired me.178.The person was really desired by others.179.I wanted to gain access to that person's friend.180.I felt jealous.
181.The person flattered me.182.I wanted to see if I could get the other person into bed.183.We were breaking up and I wanted to let them down easy.184.The person smelled nice.185.I saw the person naked and could not resist.
186.I was turned on by the sexual conversation.187.The person was intelligent.188.The person caressed me.189.The person wore revealing clothes.190.The person had too much to drink and I was able to take advantage of them.
191.I knew the person was usually "out of my league."192.The person was mysterious.193.I realized I was in love.194.I wanted to forget about my problems.195.I wanted to help my partner forget about their problems/I wanted to lift my partner's spirits.
196.I wanted to make my partner feel powerful.197.I wanted to see whether sex with a different partner would feel different or better.198.Writer's Choice199.Writer's Choice200.Writer's Choice


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