I think there are a few times in life when you can tell people what to do. This is one of them. Of course, you can tell them nicely, but I think you definitely have the right to say, I'm sorry, but I'd really feel more comfortable having the shower within ten minutes of my house. This is my first pregnancy, and I don't know how I will feel about traveling when I'm at that stage. I really appreciate you throwing this shower for me, and to help you, I put together a list of people I'd like to invite, along with their addresses. That way, you don't have to go about tracking down this information!
I wasn't like this with the massive amounts of bridal showers . I was like ok invite these people and do this. but for some reason I just feel differently about this one?
It sounds like your one friend might not be too receptive of the suggestions, but I think the important thing is you being comfortable and having a good time, so it's okay if you're assertive.
Plus, I don't know, bridal showers seemed a lot less daunting than baby showers. I was like, OOH WAFFLE IRONS AND BLENDERS! But BABY stuff? That's this whole other realm.
Sometimes good friends have the best intentions, but screw things up. I don't know if you remember my catastrophe with the friend who wanted to CHARGE guests for my baby shower, on top of which, she wanted to have it during the holidays, AND didn't want to invite my entire guest list... a mess.
Point is, you can take your friends aside and tell them that because you'll be ready to pop, you don't want to be in a car for nearly 3 hours to get to the baby shower. Tell them that you'll provide a guest list to make sure everyone you want there is invited and that no one gets missed.
Is it possible to suggest a restaurant or some place that's halfway in between??
Oh yeah, and maybe have them google "baby shower" and read some etiquette sites on how to throw one. the big thing all the sites say is that you should make the mother comfortable and do what she wants!
I was thinking, perhaps, of maybe saying to your friend that believes your friends wont want to travel to your place, that if they can just turn up for the day and spend it with you, that presents won't need to be a big deal? That way it's more of just a party than a shower, and they wont have to feel obligated to drive and buy you something. Just a thought :)
You're the one who is going to have to be driving 2.5 hours home with all your presents -- if you get a lot of stuff and you don't have a van, you're going to have to make that trip several times.
I wouldn't want to do that trip several times at 7 or 8 months either.
I understand not wanting to impose on people who are doing something nice for you, but they're NOT being nice if they're not listening to your needs.
i agree. and I feel bad because Andrea is such a nice, gentle person, and i think she will be overrun by the forcefulness that is Janine. not that I dislike Janine, she is just headstrong and has her own ideas.. if that makes sense.
I've had more than my share of pushy people with my recent wedding and stuff and having to deal with something like that while pregnant would set me off into a flying rage, no doubt about it.
YOU'RE the one who's pregnant. YOU'RE the one who needs to be comfortable. Your FRIENDS are the ones throwing the party for YOU. Why the hell does it need to be only convenient for THEM?? That makes absolutely no sense to me. That's like being told to drive to a hospital 3 hours away while you're in labor. Heyel no!! I'd rather crank it out in my bathtub with an axe embedded in my back! Jerks!
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And if that doesn't work, do a Jedi mind trick.
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I wasn't like this with the massive amounts of bridal showers . I was like ok invite these people and do this. but for some reason I just feel differently about this one?
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Plus, I don't know, bridal showers seemed a lot less daunting than baby showers. I was like, OOH WAFFLE IRONS AND BLENDERS! But BABY stuff? That's this whole other realm.
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lol wasn't it hilarious at bridal showers when you got, like, a toaster and you were SUPER EXCITED?!?!?!
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Point is, you can take your friends aside and tell them that because you'll be ready to pop, you don't want to be in a car for nearly 3 hours to get to the baby shower. Tell them that you'll provide a guest list to make sure everyone you want there is invited and that no one gets missed.
Is it possible to suggest a restaurant or some place that's halfway in between??
Oh yeah, and maybe have them google "baby shower" and read some etiquette sites on how to throw one. the big thing all the sites say is that you should make the mother comfortable and do what she wants!
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and I do remember that drama, sheesh :(
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That way it's more of just a party than a shower, and they wont have to feel obligated to drive and buy you something.
Just a thought :)
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I wouldn't want to do that trip several times at 7 or 8 months either.
I understand not wanting to impose on people who are doing something nice for you, but they're NOT being nice if they're not listening to your needs.
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I've had more than my share of pushy people with my recent wedding and stuff and having to deal with something like that while pregnant would set me off into a flying rage, no doubt about it.
YOU'RE the one who's pregnant. YOU'RE the one who needs to be comfortable. Your FRIENDS are the ones throwing the party for YOU. Why the hell does it need to be only convenient for THEM?? That makes absolutely no sense to me. That's like being told to drive to a hospital 3 hours away while you're in labor. Heyel no!! I'd rather crank it out in my bathtub with an axe embedded in my back! Jerks!
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haha pushy wedding people. my MIL planned my wedding :-p
its true. its my party adn I'll cry if I want to!
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