Breaking down some "Toxic masculinity" phrases that do the opposite of what Feminists claim
The first thing to understand is kids aren't adults. When you explain things to a kid it must be short or they'll forget large chucks of it if they remember it at all.
It must be limited to a childs understanding of the world remember they are kids they don't know what is going on around the world.
Let's start with a phrase not used with kids but with adults.
"Boys will be boys"
This isn't use universally. Feminists claim this is used to excuse bullying and that just shows how dishonnest this whole "Toxic masculinity" thing is.
"Boys will be boys" are when boys (and sometimes girls) play rough. Most boys (and some girls) play rough and some bizzy body shows up and the reply is "Boys will be boys" today it's more "shut up bitch I don't need some bizzy body telling me how to raise my kids" and sometimes leading to the bizzy body getting her ass kicked.
Most boys (and some girls) need to learn limits. With rough play they learn the consequences of fighting, how to fight when needed, what limits they have (how far to take things before someone gets hurt) and not to complain over small things.
Most boys (and some girls) are driven to do this and if boys don't release that drive it builds up and they become violent bullies later in life.
It should be noted that not all boys are like this and some girls are like this. You shouldn't presure kids to play rough however if they are prone to roughouse it should be supervised so as to prevent serious injury and to prevent involving kids who are not interested in that type of play.
(Side note I didn't need this, when I did decided to roughouse and I said no, repeatedly, he didn't stop. So I knocked him out with one punch. I can take a hit so I didn't need to learn to defend myself and already knew how strong I am. That kid learned to take no for an answer and I learned I shouldn't fight back because of the overwhelming diffrence in stright in most cases.)
"Don't start a fight, however if someone picks a fight finish it"
Simply put "stand up for yourself" but if you just tell a kid to "stand up for what you believe in" you get a child picking fights with everyone who has a diffrent opinion. They need to understand in context that fighting is wrong and that the only time it's ok is in self defense.
Again in my case I was told to stand up and take it. Because I can. Keeping in mind I'm the one carrying the bully to the nurses office and typically working out our diffrences diplomaticaly.
I'ma gonna stop here. Most of this Toxic masculity is about telling people to raise kids in direct contradiction to the best interets of the child. Usually to deprive a boy of stoicism. To learn it's better to NOT fight. To handle rejection and handle the harsh world with grace.
Feminists think they can remove the violent nature in men by removing what they call "Toxic masculinity" when when they really do is remove the boys ability to control and channel that energy.
In the 1980's a drug dealer stole my friends computer. He was angry. Instead of beating the shit out of the guy he suspected of stealing his computer he choped wood.
That nature is never going away.The attempt to eliminate that nature just eliminates the self control needed to keep it from getting out of control.
Feminists think they are preventing rapists, abusers and such in reality they create them.
This is why we keep getting more mass shootings. Because reallistically a lot of the shooters don't play video games. Those that did use video games as a release didn't know a healthy way to deal with anger.