As far as I can tell, it's just part of growing up. Loving like a teenager is fine when you're a teenager, but not sustainable.
Not that I'm an expert (is anyone?), but to my way of thinking, there's no reason to be impatient with the growth of feelings. Anything that happens powerfully and instantly has no foundation, nothing between you and the other person aside from that flash. If it's something real, it may take time, but hey, it'll be worth the time, no?
I agree with umbrarumcantus. The fact that you no longer experience butterflies could simply be developmental; it doesn't mean that there's anything wrong with you or your ability to love. And although you may miss the rush of endorphins attached to first love, their absence is probably a positive sign that you're maturing rather than becoming trapped in adolescent patterns of behavior. Still, it'll probably take some time to adjust to, but don't assume it's a bad thing.
Admittedly, between then and now he hurt and betrayed me pretty badly. Is that why I can't quite let myself be happy with the idea of being with him?
Absolutely. Even if you've forgiven him and begun to rebuild your relationship, it's understandable that you may still have some trepidation. If he hurt you once, it's natural to wonder whether he could hurt you again, and to try to guard yourself against any further pain.
But hang in there. You'll get things figured out. ♥
I heard about the whole hoo-haa about the Darwin film and my eyes just about rolled back up into my head... because seriously?? OH AMERICA.
Hope you have fun w/ the Renn Faire!
PS am mentioning it again here in case you don't see my entry-- Remember than one request I had for people about my Bachelor's Thesis? Would you still be willing do to that skype interview about your blogging experiences with me? I'd like to start getting the interviews done this week or early next, and was wondering if you guys are still up for it.
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Not that I'm an expert (is anyone?), but to my way of thinking, there's no reason to be impatient with the growth of feelings. Anything that happens powerfully and instantly has no foundation, nothing between you and the other person aside from that flash. If it's something real, it may take time, but hey, it'll be worth the time, no?
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Admittedly, between then and now he hurt and betrayed me pretty badly. Is that why I can't quite let myself be happy with the idea of being with him?
Absolutely. Even if you've forgiven him and begun to rebuild your relationship, it's understandable that you may still have some trepidation. If he hurt you once, it's natural to wonder whether he could hurt you again, and to try to guard yourself against any further pain.
But hang in there. You'll get things figured out. ♥
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I wish I could give you advice on the whole Nathan thing, but God knows I am not a relationship expert.
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Hope you have fun w/ the Renn Faire!
PS am mentioning it again here in case you don't see my entry-- Remember than one request I had for people about my Bachelor's Thesis? Would you still be willing do to that skype interview about your blogging experiences with me? I'd like to start getting the interviews done this week or early next, and was wondering if you guys are still up for it.
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