And I should feel sorry for these people?

[femmdraven]

Story hereIf you move across country with no job locked into place, get an apartment in Venice and get knocked up, you're asking for a disaster. How stupid was this couple? The proof is there in black and white, for the entire world to see

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[agent_diamond]

When I moved across country, I luckily had job prospects... or at least a hope of a job offer. If that hadn't worked out I'd have gone to my parents' and regrouped.

[femmdraven]

It's also a little different when it's just one person. This guy moved himself and his wife across country with nothing lined up where work was concerned. Then they got pregnant? Stupid.

[agent_diamond]

What happens if you need to move- like I did when I lost my job, or maybe because of an abusive ex, or a stalker- and don't have a lot of money? Ideally you'd go as far as possible, but if you don't have money, you can't. That's not exactly fair. Getting a tax rebate is fine but if you have no income, how to you get the money back

[femmdraven]

I guess everyone views each situation differently. When it comes to fight or flight...I'm a fighter. My 1st husband had guns and threatened to kill my entire family, but I did not budge. I would not allow him to bully me yet another time and chase me away from my friends and family...in my mind, he'd have won then and I knew I couldn't allow that. I got a restraining order and we were constantly on the lookout. He showed up once and within about 2 minutes, there were a half dozen cops in my parent's cul-de-sac. Yeah, I'm a fighter.

The move wasn't a wise decision for them without at least some contacts made where they were going, but having a baby...that was where they were extremely stupid.

[mister_barista]

"Um, hi, I forgot to wear a condom, and the wife don't do Greek, but we'd like to live in your expensive beachfront city"

[femmdraven]

Exactly. If you want to live the lifestyle, you have to prepare for it or at the very least, not add another mouth to feed. And start out in a cheap place until you see you CAN make it before moving into something out of your price range.

[_joi]

I agree completely. Why move without lining something up first and definitely don't have a baby when you don't know you'll ba able to provide for it.

She's not hideous. I'm sure she could do some, ahem, photos for extra cash. Seriously, though, it makes me wonder if he's really willing to bag groceries and can't find a job doing that. I know the job market sucks, but there's gotta be something out there.

The worst part is listening to them air their problems in a public media outlet. I hope they move home and suck it up.

[femmdraven]

I thought the same thing where she's concerned.

Granted, having pics of yourself on the interwebs would kinda suck. I danced when I couldn't make ends meet...you do what you have to do, to put food on the table and keep a roof over your kid's heads. Had I been getting child support from the loser ex-husband, I wouldn't have had to do it, but I wasn't and I wasn't going to have my kids and I living on the streets...so I sucked it up and did what I had to do (on the side while I kept my regular job that wasn't quite cutting it). And in my "spare" time, I worked as an extra on some movies when I had the opportunity.

You do what you have to do and if you won't do that, you aren't ready to have kids and you aren't being a grown-up.

[azul_ros]

I understand they were naive, and I agree they should have planned better. But it really does show a decline in the economy. Not even a year ago, I would bet he could have found enough leads to keep busy. Everyone is cutting costs across the board. I am running into the same kind of problems, where I can't even get anywhere with basic jobs I've applied for: working at Goodwill, working at a call center, etc. There are simply too many of us trying to find work. That was the point I was trying to make when I posted that story. For those of you who are still employed, I don't think you understand the gravity of what is happening. Hearing that there may be another 150,000 (from the USPS) out there looking for work soon is certainly not making me feel confident in finding employment.

[femmdraven]

I do understand the gravity of it all...I'm scared shitless every day, but I'm trying to stay positive and not focus on what could happen. I'm convinced if I start to think negatively, something bad could/would happen and so I try to veer away from dwelling on the economy and how bad it could be for me. Even though I bitch about my job, I remind myself EVERY DAY I'm lucky to have it and I just focus on my time at home in the evenings and on weekends. I still have my moments with negativity creeping in, but I think it's gotten less frequent since I started taking the Celexa. Yeah, maybe I'm burying my head in the sand, but if doing that keeps me from downward spiraling into depression, it's what I have to do.

To further explain:

[azul_ros]

Part of why I said what I said is because of _joi's comment: I know the job market sucks, but there's gotta be something out there. There are jobs out there, but not enough to go around.