situations like this you are kind of fucked either way.
my best advice is that you can never help someone if they will not help themselves first. I've seen people nearly destroy themselves trying to help others who simply would not help themselves.
i think it has a lot to do with support. support your friend when they need you but be open that you do not support whatever it is you feel is damaging them.
But I think calling someone a friend is trusting that person enough where you can be honest with each other. Usually if someone I know is doing something fuck-tarded I sit and have a little chat with them. If they want to compromise a friendship over something I'm concerned with in their life well...that's their beef not mine. If someone is going to fault me for CARING about them and their well-being. But I'm ballsy when it comes to these things.
Being honest versus seeming like an asshole pointing out faults is a hard line to balance on.
But eh go with your gut instinct. If you interfere your going to get dragged down with a bunch of drama bullshit you may not want. If you don't your going to be on the sidelines wishing you could say something but eh' HOPING they work through this shit.
Friend B. I've been friend B. and sometimes you gotta love your friend more than your friendship. I lost a friend this way but she's still alive, even if she hates me.
Well, in the movies, the friend who doesn't sit by, and tries to help the other friend is always praised. I try to be that friend because, my conscience won't let me do otherwise. Depends on the level of friendship though, I wouldn't do anything for some random friend of mine.
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my best advice is that you can never help someone if they will not help themselves first. I've seen people nearly destroy themselves trying to help others who simply would not help themselves.
i think it has a lot to do with support. support your friend when they need you but be open that you do not support whatever it is you feel is damaging them.
hope that makes sense
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But I think calling someone a friend is trusting that person enough where you can be honest with each other. Usually if someone I know is doing something fuck-tarded I sit and have a little chat with them. If they want to compromise a friendship over something I'm concerned with in their life well...that's their beef not mine. If someone is going to fault me for CARING about them and their well-being. But I'm ballsy when it comes to these things.
Being honest versus seeming like an asshole pointing out faults is a hard line to balance on.
But eh go with your gut instinct. If you interfere your going to get dragged down with a bunch of drama bullshit you may not want. If you don't your going to be on the sidelines wishing you could say something but eh' HOPING they work through this shit.
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I've been friend B. and sometimes you gotta love your friend more than your friendship. I lost a friend this way but she's still alive, even if she hates me.
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