Kid spacing-- High Needs

[fibermama]

I had this as a reply but wanted to put it in as an official post cause this is a big issue for me

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I hear you!

[owlsamantha]

I absolutely understand! My thing was that I didn't want to get used to a full night's sleep just to have it all broken up again. It's a hard thing, this child spacing.

((hugs))

Re: I hear you!

[fibermama]

thanks, it is pretty hard. It's kind of like a no-win situation. Either way it's gonna be hard.

You know I'm with you on this...

[battleaxe4real]

... for all the reasons you mention here. It is a hard issue, especially with people (including some "experts") telling us to wait. "You're having *another one* already?" -- I've heard that too many times already, and you might get it, too. (I figure if they're rude enough to go there, I can reply, "well, you know how old I am and I sure don't have much more time, right?" and really put them on the spot.)

But I am realizing that birth spacing isn't just a one-dimensional thing. Nothing about kids or having them is, in fact. You're doing what you feel is right based on how you weigh out all the factors involved (everyone always seems to leave out what mama wants and needs when they're tallying up their scores), and what will work for you, and that should count for a lot more than "expert opinion."

Re: You know I'm with you on this...

[fibermama]

yeah, thanks Battle. But I also hear (and worry about) the mama going crazy with two small kids issue. I don't want to wreck my marriage or my sanity because of another baby so early.
At this stage (we never have all the facts until it's too late) it seems that the cost/benefit analysis points toward having one sooner rather than later. sigh. I hope I'm right.
Then again, who knows how long it'll take to get preggo again.