The Single Life - Pros and Cons

[fijiman18]

This has been on my mind lately. As some of my NY pals that I keep in touch with know, I am a single guy and have been for some time (and knowing my luck - will be for the unforeseeable future). This may have to do with several variables, none of which have anything to do with me looking like something Jabba the Hut shit out of himself when he died

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[angelundercover]

There are pro's and con's to everything. I guess you just look at which outweighs the other. You have more con's...you like sooooo need lurv.

I'm recently married...happily...yet missing my simple single life.

Maybe we all just want what we don't have, until we have it, then we don't want it anymore. The thrill of the chase.

[fijiman18]

Well, congrats on your recent marriage. I would hope it would be happily.

Truthfully, even when I'm in a relationship I didn't miss my single days. Maybe I've just grown past it and looking for the next phase in my life.

Helping!

[1hourbefore]

Well, I will admit that I am one of those shallow girls at times. Not gonna lie. And I'm not gonna sit and say "Oh, you will find that speacial someone" and "Oh, there is someone out there for everyone."...cause that does shit for people. No one buys that. But I do have a lot of friends and I know a lot of people who are in good relationships, and whatnot. And they didn't meet in clubs/bar scenes. And they didn't meet online. Online dateing is way over rated. And you are right...people are pretty shallow in how people look. But sometimes, that's just the first impression. Usualy it IS about personality. You do seem like a pretty cool person. After you get to know someone, the personality starts makeing you look good. Trust me. Do you have a pic? You don't have to. Just wondering. I like helping people out and stuff. Anyways

Re: Helping!

[fijiman18]

Thanks for the kind words. A lot of what you gave as advice is stuff I have already incorporated in my life. I've normally been ahead of my demographic so I mainly need to wait for the girls to "grow up" in one way or another. Not sure how old you are (I'm guessing young by your own admission), but as a woman progresses through her 20s she goes through many changes.

In the end, I know I'm not looking for the perfect woman - just a woman who's perfect for me. There is a big difference and I know that I'll be perfect for her.

Thanks for stopping by!

[1hourbefore]

(And when I say people who throw everything away for someone...when they would be happier alone...I mean that alone may not be so bad for some people. In today's society, it seems like everyone has to be pared off.)

Us poor singles

[anonymous]

Hey, hit the random button and ended up at your site. I'm also single, and born in 79...Maybe it's the fate of our generation or something. Who knows. Well, at least you aren't living and working in Russia like me. (I love Moscow, don't get me wrong) But the guys here are super schauvenist (don't get me wrong, I'm not feminist, I like a good manly man), dirty, and can't pronounce the word relationship. Man what I wouldn't give for a good American. Anyway, sometimes its just nice to know someone else out there agrees with you (and isn't trying to help you or con you out of your pic.) I'm not signed in now, but I'm bookmarking you cause your funny and I'll check back later! Liz

[amynicole717]

Very funny! I found you on random and really enjoyed your rant. Hope you don't mind the following remarks.

I really don't have any other suggestions than just get out there. I've met most of my past relationships through friends, but I have went on a few dates with people I've met at coffee shops and bookstores...and meeting people online really isn't that bad, don't be biased unless you've had REALLY bad experiences. I've met some great people online. BTW, I'm adding you to my friends list, hope you don't mind. :-P