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findurself83

Anonymous ehh....

Feb 01, 2008 11:00

As an anonymous reply to this post, I want you to ask me any questions you've been afraid to ask for whatever reason. That I'd be offended, angry, whatever. I won't know it was you. I'll answer them honestly. Even if it hurts. If you don't have any questions, feel free to make any comments you've been afraid to make. Again, I won't know it was you ( Read more... )

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anonymous February 4 2008, 14:27:28 UTC

Are you sure you should be marrying someone that you are still in the buddy stage with? I mean you even have said you have a hard time trusting...is that a good start to a relationship?

findurself83 February 5 2008, 02:46:54 UTC

We're beyond just starting a relationship. We've been together over a year, we have twins together. Wherever we're at currently in our relationship can only get stronger. We already committed to being parents together. As long as we can be a united front and build on our trust I think we'll keep growing towards each other. I fell in love with Tom the first month I dated him, but it reached a whole new level the week our kids were born. Sure I have reserveations and fears, but I think a lot of it has to do with my own personal insecurities! I know I need to fix those, but I don't think its fair to Tom or the kids to put things on hold wil I tackle that, but definately need to fix those.

anonymous February 5 2008, 03:26:57 UTC

Just because someone has kids together, doesn't mean they should be married though. Don't you think you should work on your personal stuff before making a commitment to someone who doesn't seem to respect you very much?

findurself83 February 5 2008, 12:18:57 UTC

Just where did you pick up lack of respect from? I love him, if the rest of it takes work or counceling then we're prepared to do it. We care about each other a lot. When we first met we said we wanted to be married once, and for the rest of our lives. We chose to have kids first, and now we want to go to commit to each other too. All I know is when I fall asleep at night in his arms, THAT is where I want to spend the REST of my life.

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anonymous February 4 2008, 14:28:57 UTC

What's the coolest thing about being a mom?

findurself83 February 5 2008, 02:48:17 UTC

Dirty diapers, definately! :)

Watching the kids do new and different things ever day. Seeing them grow! For example James is starting to "talk" to himself, and Joyanne is working on rolling over right now!

anonymous February 5 2008, 03:24:48 UTC

After the very first time he ever hit you, why didn't you leave Dugald?

findurself83 February 5 2008, 12:25:00 UTC

When you're in an abusive relationship you don't want to admit it. You think that you can fix it, that part or all of what it is wrong is YOUR fault. You don't want to be a statistic. It was an accident, and you love that person.

Also I don't think it really started falling apart until 3 days after we moved intogether and we signed a lease. He broke up with me, and I was crushed. I was stuck living with him and the respect for him AND myself flew out the window.

Dugie and I got to the point where I don't remember who would start things. It wasn't healthy for either of us. It taught me to adapt unhealthy reactions to things that weren't necessarily even threatening.